"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

AFC girl

slaog

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 16, 2008
Messages
1,722
Reaction score
51
Location
an island
Just to show that not all women fit the sterotype we have of them. My girlfriends best friend (I'll call her Ann) is 27 and a virgin. Last year, about december 2008, her work colleagues orgainised a blind date for her and another guy who I'll call Jim.

They met and liked each other and started dating. It was Jim who was keener at the start but then Ann started to develop feelings. Shes very guarded.

Anyway to cut a long story short Jim went home for christmas and met his ex girlfriend. At the same time there wasn't much communication from him. He went back to his ex and Ann was very upset.

The other day I was talking about Ann and my girlfriend told me that she sent him a happy new year text message! A year after they last met! I did feel sorry for her although she badly wants a boyfriend because of her age but she does f-all about it. Never really goes out and doesn't even like online dating so she rarely meets men.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Warrior74

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2008
Messages
5,106
Reaction score
230
besides being virgin what's wrong with her? Fat, unattractive? Socially inept? High expectations? I mean dudes will hit on the homeliest of girls so I fail to see how a decent attractive woman could be AFC.
 

backbreaker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 24, 2002
Messages
11,546
Reaction score
572
Location
monrovia, CA
If someone isn't getting dates, it's not some grand scheme to get keep the woman or the man down, it's becuase for some reason, everyone has decided they aren't worthy of being with.

There was this girl named crystal I met maybe, 8 months before I met my now finacee. She was...cute. not hot, maybe a 6.5, but I really was digging her personality. I met her through a friend, she seemed down to earth we shared the same interests, even down to music. She seemed pretty chill. Most of all she made it, pretty ovbious she liked me, alot. Then after hearing about her "luck" with me, I was thinking at first, dude, what hte hell are wrong with these dudes. I mean she isn't a supermodel, but she isnt' ugly at all and she's pretty sweet.

lol


maybe... 4 dates in. We went out to eat to a chinese bueffet. she saw me eating, she doesn't tell me she is a Diabetic type A.. what hte **** do I care anyway you are older than me what am I supposed to do watch your food lol? This was a cheat day for me food wise so I was all in. I mean, egg rolls, shrimp fried rice with duck sauce, orange chicken, you name it I had it on my plate. So she goes and ges her food and I think nothing of it. Well I call her the next day, doesn't pick up. oh well. odd. Don't hear from here for like 3 days. I'm like huimm. interesting. She calls me from the hosptial like, a week later and like 10 seconds in the conversations calls med a peice of siht for "letting her eat all that". I take that bakc, I knew she was a diabetic, but what the ****, I'm not your personal nutritionist, you have the **** not me. I told her to get well soon, I forgot what was even wrong with her, and hung up, i was done lol.

she tried to apologize when she got out but you know, I saw all I needed to see at that point.


the moral of the story is, single people are always single for a reason. Sometimes it's an acceptable reason, I was single fo ra while becuause I just did not have time to ate. Crystal was single becuase she ran men off for no reason.

I assure you aFC girl is single because of a real reason.
 

Scaramouche

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 27, 2008
Messages
4,440
Reaction score
1,560
Age
82
Location
Australia
Dear Slaog,
I went to School with a reasonably attractive Girl (Say a 6.5) more than 50 years ago,Although working full time in a Good job,she lived with Her Mum until two years ago when she handed in her Chips....That Woman has never had a BoyFriend...She is Intelligent,well read,friendly,socially skilled,a Christian Sure,(Nothing wrong with that in a Keeper).Has a Loyalty track record,but has never become involved with anyone.
 

slaog

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 16, 2008
Messages
1,722
Reaction score
51
Location
an island
Theres nothing really wrong with this girl. Maybe socially inept could be right. Her father died when she was 1 year old and yes she lives with her mother out in a rural place. So I'd say shes had little experience of men. All her friends are girls too.


Looks wise shes average but thats no barrier to finding a man. Shes intelligent and easy going but she doesn't like stepping out of her comfort zone ie try online dating even. I'm sure her goal is to have a family.


My girlfriend is worried that shes getting old now(although thats a bit over dramatic) and no sign of even a boyfriend. I made a few suggestions like online dating but realistically its looking doubtful she'll have a family at this stage unless she steps out of her comfort zone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top