"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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afc friend that copies me

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what should i do about a afc friend, (used to be a great friend when i was afc too)

all he does is follow me, he see me go to the gym, wants to come too, but gives up after a few days, buys clothes that he sees me wear, heard i was joining the army reserves, so he signed up too...but when i try to get him to approach some girls, he would just make excuses and not do anything.

overall, this guy is easily persuaded, never makes decisions for himself, only asks others and is pretty introverted, but he is really nice friend, i was sick a while ago and missed like 2 months of college, he basicly brought me the assignments everyday.

but it gets a little annoying when all he does is ask your opinion for basicly everything,

but then again his parents divorced when he was little and he grew up with his uncle, so he had a hard life.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ORTIZ SANCHEZ

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if its true that hes easily persuaded than persuade him to talk to some girls just be like do it man youll never have another chance like this maybe if he gets a girlfriend he might not spend so much with you
 

WC2

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you should be flattered if anything. if it's annoying, tell him so. good friends are always honest
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Potbelly

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dude I'd help him out man.
 

oakraiderz2

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metrhoe said:
i think ur the AFC who is actually following

??? Are you fvckin joking me? You read the samething i did, how did you come to your conclusion?? His friend mimicks what he does yet HE'S the one following his AFC friend? This site blows. People need to stop talking.

Anyway, just try to help him out. If he doesnt budge, find a way to trick him into doing it. If he idolizes you in the way it appears, he'll do it if you do it and help him along.
 

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Focus on your own life and don't worry about what your friend is doing. If he keeps asking your questions that go around in circles then just tell him either:

1) "You're right."
2) "I don't know."

Both of those responses disarm him and give him no where to go with the conversation so you don't have to deal with it. Some people are like that - they really aren't looking for advice they just like twisting conversations around for sport.
 

BacardiGuy

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He obviously looks up to you and respects your opinion. Be up front with him, if you find him annoying tell him your advice is overrated and that he should make his own decisions.
 

T Money

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My roomate was like that. I have known this guy since like 6th grade, and he's all up on my nuts all the time. He even had a girlfriend too and she noticed, got bored of it then left him for me :)

Sucks to be him, but if he doesn't man up the world will walk all over him, like she and I did.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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