AFC Behavior... Help!!

[zerocelcius]

I am seeing sombody that I am getting along with, but last night she did somthing that reminded me of a girl that I dated (ex a long time ago). I was a complete AFC with her (ex) and when I was reminded of her(ex) I spooked. It brought up so much $*** that I thought I left behind me.

I can't shake the feelings I had for the ex (which are complete insecurity since she f**ckd me over) I know I shouldn't act on what I felt for the ex, but I can't let go.

The new girl didn't do anything wrong she is just real open and made a sexual statement (not a suggestive on but a general statement to a mutual guy friend) and I lost my cool inside. i did my best to keep it inside but in the end I had to jet before I turned all AFC'y on her.

I am still hesitant to see her again because I still can't shake the feeling and there is no way in hell I want to go soft and loose it.

Need help.

 

[zerocelcius]

For sure. No problem there. (just for the record I am a man. I am a US Army Vet.)

But the thing I needed help with is not with the girl I am with or the girls I am with it how to deal with the past.

I never really had relationships (mostly *ucking). But I got hung up on this girl (sex was good) and she wound up doing some very *ucked up things behind my back. After that I turned into a wantabe player. Than I just treated all girls like $hit. Than I calmed down and delt with the way I felt. Now I try to just let things be and do what I want.

but this brought some deep emotions that I thought were gone..

here is what happend....

"....we were all hanging out and one of our friends flys a plane, and she asked when her and her friend could go up.... than finished with "...And No Air-Head"!!

I don't know why but it took me right back to the ex that ****ed me over... mostly because she would have givin him air-head....

The truth is I like this chick more than I should and the only other person I felt that way with *ucked me over...

anyway thanks for the reply...

Peace.

 

[zerocelcius]

"Stop living in a dreamworld, stop living in the past, stop thinking about the future, live in the present or you wont live at all - because soon the present which we are in now will become memories and regrets and the future dreams will become the unfruitioned present - no different from what you are living in now"


Nice!! Your totally right. The past is the Past. I know that I am going to have problems with the past but I have to let go. I knew that but I didnt' know how. After reading that I felt stupid for letting the past affect me after so long.

Thanks and Good Looking out.