The Diver
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^ This is the problem- Keeping doing the same things and expecting a deferent result.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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- Thread starter Ryan Adams
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
He's not pursuing though. His pattern is focusing on his purpose and not wasting time on females whose not in to him. Someone will choose him eventually. And after one there will be others.
Ryan Adams
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well I'm doing things much differently now. not over pursuing, not drooling at the mouth at one chick I like, trying to spin multiple plates etc I'm a work in progress yes but I am moving forward
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Your not at the Apex of your reality yet, but you see the light . It will all happen .
You sound like your confident enough I yourself to not let a "hot" chick jerk you around or waste your time .
Ryan Adams
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I'm definitely not at the apex but I am for sure learning more and more everyday.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.