The Diver
Master Don Juan
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^ This is the problem- Keeping doing the same things and expecting a deferent result.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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- Thread starter Ryan Adams
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
He's not pursuing though. His pattern is focusing on his purpose and not wasting time on females whose not in to him. Someone will choose him eventually. And after one there will be others.
Ryan Adams
Master Don Juan
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well I'm doing things much differently now. not over pursuing, not drooling at the mouth at one chick I like, trying to spin multiple plates etc I'm a work in progress yes but I am moving forward
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Your not at the Apex of your reality yet, but you see the light . It will all happen .
You sound like your confident enough I yourself to not let a "hot" chick jerk you around or waste your time .
Ryan Adams
Master Don Juan
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I'm definitely not at the apex but I am for sure learning more and more everyday.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.