"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Advice?

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I met a girl (lets call her K) while on a date a few months ago, she was my dates friend. A few weeks later, after getting friendzoned with my original date (we'll call her M) because of my AFC ways, I got a text off M's phone saying "Heyy, it's K. I stole M's phone :p shh. What you doing? Wanna get together tonight?". I was asleep when I got it so i didn't get a chance and couldn't reply to M.

A few weeks later, I ran into K. I quickly went for a number close and it went great. Called her a week later and made plans but I couldn't make it. After the week she was showing a LOT of interest and we made a few date plans but I'd been extremely busy and they often fell through. This continued for a month but she'd still constantly text me asking when we would finally hang out.

Last Thursday we finally got a chance to hang out. I met her at her bus stop and we went to the mall and casually hung out for a few hours. It ended up being fairly boring, there was a fair bit of flirting but basically no kino. A week later (I'd been pretty busy with school) I talked to her but it seemed that ALL interest was gone. I know the date didn't go too well but to go from such a high interest level to such a low one in a week really surprised me.

Is there a way to get her interest level back up? If not I'll probably next her but this girl wanted to fvck me a week ago and yesterday would barely talk to me. So should I invite her to my friend's house party this week? Should I wait a while and ask her out in a few weeks? Should I just casually talk to her on FB to see if her interest will return (Can't see her in person)?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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War Against Betaism

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A girl's interest is very fragile; fvck up and you could lose it forever. I remember there was this girl that was all over my nuts one night and lost interest in me only a couple of minutes later, literally (let's say I did something really embarrassing that turned her off badly). As what you should do, invite her to the party anyways, fvck it, not just so you can get at her again, but use it as social proof; she'll most likely only know you at the party and will look to stick with you, and it's always a good thing that you're talking to a girl at a party to get other girl's to notice.
 

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I agree with WAB as well. If you want to get her back, kino's definitely your weapon of choice though. Learn a bit about it and escalation and take it from there. It's worked wonders for me time & time again, in the worst of friendzone situations.
 
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