"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Will900

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In the last 15 mins i have been speaking to a girl i met a while back. We started dating b4 xmas then she says she wasnt ready for a relationship so we have been friends since. But like i sed in the last 15 mins she has been talking to me about wot we went through. Then i asked her do u still like me? She said yes i do. The second she said that it was like Mike Tyson had blown my in the stomach. Then she asked me if i still like her and obviously i do, so i said yes. Then she said right im going now hun speak soon with 7 kisses. Shall i play it cool and hope something develops?
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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2Pac_Makaveli_1

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Play it cool, if she has your number wait for her to call / txt you / if nothing happens in a week or so, drop her a lil txt that in no way is sucking up to her, because then you will get into the fiasco of chasing after her and she will eventually feel she is worth more which is gay as f uck and will lead to disaster.

Just don't be a suck up, because you have more important things in ur life than fantasising over chicks all day man.
 

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Will900 said:
Shall i play it cool and hope something develops?
I don't see why you shouldn't. What do you have to lose here? Play it cool, set something up with her, go out, practice your routine or whatever it is you do. Good luck. And please keep us updated, I say that alot on here but nobody ever gives any updates. We'd like to know if our advice worked for you or not.
 

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I don't see why you shouldn't. What do you have to lose here? Play it cool, set something up with her, go out, practice your routine or whatever it is you do. Good luck. And please keep us updated, I say that alot on here but nobody ever gives any updates. We'd like to know if our advice worked for you or not.

I'm with you on that. +1
 

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Just do whatever it is that you've been doing. If that means calling her or texting her a few times a week do it. Don't try to overdo the whole playing it cool thing, but by the same token don't run off and call her 5x a day now. Whatever you've been doing recently is obviously working.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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2Pac_Makaveli_1 said:
Play it cool, if she has your number wait for her to call / txt you / if nothing happens in a week or so, drop her a lil txt that in no way is sucking up to her, because then you will get into the fiasco of chasing after her and she will eventually feel she is worth more which is gay as f uck and will lead to disaster.

Just don't be a suck up, because you have more important things in ur life than fantasising over chicks all day man.
I agree. Will, be cool man and do not continue to write her. It makes you look desperate. If she is truly interested, she will contact you.

Meanwhile, talk to and kick it with other females and occupy yourself with things that will get her off your mind. I am not sure how old you are but you two sound very young. The reason why she probably wasn't ready for a relationship was because she was/is dealing with another guy (or multiple guys). Always have in the back of your mind that YOU are the man. Ya dig?
 
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