"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Advice with asking this girl's numb#r (again)

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Alright I made a thread a while back about how my one friend ****blocked me while pulling this girl'snumber, but I'll refresh the story anyway:

This girl that I know from school also takes the public bus with me sometimes, so I asked her for her number during passing period (one of the only times I see her during school). She happily obliged, and had just accepted my phone and was entering her digitzz when this stupid kid came in and made a big deal about her giving her number.....she got embarrassed, ran away WITHOUT giving me her number.

So I'm like FVCK. I've decided not to mention it at all when I see her, but all this week I haven't seen her on the bus, but w/e I think its stupid to wait to talk to her anyway. But the only other times I've seen her in school is passing period, and the only time I talked to her---well she initiated convo with me---,she was flocked by AFC vultures. I happily told her I had bought her friend a bagel, and I didnt buy her anything...yea kinda random I know hah


Anyway. What My dilemma is, is asking for her number again. My friends have to me to fvck that b1tch and ignore her completely, that if she really wanted to give me her # she wouldnt care if another guy was there...but I'm leaning towards giving her the benefit of the doubt with being shy. My friends are sort of AFC anyway, only being able to pull HOs or girls way younger. (they've suggested I pull her friend's # right in front of her next time we all take the bus, which is a funny concept but sort of stupid..)


So yea SoSuave. I need a little help with this situation. I'm sure that I'm going to ask her number again, but how do you go about that? Last time I didnt make a big deal about it, I just straight up told her, "HB7 you and I only ever get to talk on the bus, so let me get your digits ho!" How would I go about getting hers again? In a way I didnt show all that much interest in how I approached getting her # but w/eeee I'm not gonna overanalyze it.....thanks SS, need advice


<-----by the way, I didnt actually call her a ho haaa... I told her that I only get to see her on the bus, and I'd like to talk to her more
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr.Freestyler19

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just talk to her and then tell her to put the digits in your phone......if she refuses then just nxt her
 

WalkingStick

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Next time you talk to her, tell her she should give you her number. That's it.
 

faiNt`

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Getting a number isn't exactly the hardest thing. You just tell her to give you it.
 

Park

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Just ask her number again when ever u see her, maybe she got scared because of this stupid kid, ur overanalyzing. If SHE wanted your number one time, SHE wants it NOW 100% !! Go for it soldier!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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