"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Advice? What to do in my situation...

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I'm a college undergraduate, and I don't really care too much about girls. I have plenty of fun without them and am going to med school soon. However, recently I've realized that it would be pretty nice to have a list of girls I can hook up with after a night at the bars; or it would be nice to get some womanizing skills so I can work game on new girls that I meet.

Here is more detail on my background and my problem:
I am a pretty well liked guy, by both guys and girls. I may come off as a bit opinionated, and at times perhaps a little arrogant (this is mostly in front of guys). I dress well, I workout, I have a positive outlook for my future, I am intelligent, in my opinion I am above-average looking, I am fairly funny (although most my humor is sarcasm), I like to have a good time, and I am very focused. However, now I want to start hooking up with girls on a regular basis and I don't really know where to start. I was kind of hoping that since I am the things above, that girls would be naturally attracted to me, but it seems like I need to give some extra effort to escalate things to the next level. What's a good first move to put myself on these girls' radar? I'm not sure how girls think of me... they may think that I am too smart, or that I am too opinionated, or maybe just that I'm not interested in them (because I haven’t been for quite awhile). I also tend to have a problem of having too high of standards (I think) when it comes to women I will hook up with. Usually, if I can’t see myself marrying them, I won’t hook up with them (unless I'm wasted, hah).

Your thoughts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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First forget about marrying.

Second, considering the things you mentioned in your post, just start approaching girls.

Unless you're superstar handsome, girls will not come after you. Go after them.

Good Luck,


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Girls do NOT approach boys unless they are desperate or slutty to the max!!

Start approaching and showing them what you have to offer -- since you are "ALL THAT" you mention.
 

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so what's the problem, pal? so find a girl u want to marry and hook up with her. u don't need to marry her for real. or what, too scared that a woman of your dreams won't like u? and what, u expected if u work out girls will hang onto u like grapes? what re u, stupid? there 're hundreds and hundreds of men with degrees, careers, money and plus to that they work out too. so what chances do u have? u re a student - no money. nobody knows about your future creer - maybe u will end up unemployed. so stick it up with your "high standards", go and try anyone, anyone at all, maybe u re flattering yourself while looking at the mirror. good luck pal
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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