"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Advice/Tips needed

D_Master

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Before I begin with the situation at hand, I think a little backstory is needed. Keeping this as short as possible there was this girl that worked in the CVS (pharmacy/drug store) here in my town about a year ago that I always thought was very attractive. Well after going to a notre dame football game she developed the pics and we had some small talk about how she liked them as well, etc. A couple weeks later it was gameday again and I was there and she asked me if I was going to the game I said "no not this time" and was on my way. That was the last time I saw her working as she quit when she went away to college. And looing back I've always thought I had missed that 1 big time. Fast forward to now and I was sending a message to 1 of my friends on facebook and saw that she had left a comment so I just figured what the heck and sent her a message. After a couple messages back and forth I had asked her what she was going to be doing since she's home for christmas and she responded with "hanging out w/ friends, going to the bar in town, freaking out about an interview for a job" that sort of thing. I want to send a message back asking her to do something, but I guess since I've never gotten to know her really and don't want to sound desperate, since it is facebook. I'm wondering how I should go about that? Any suggestions?

Or possibly if you met a girl at a wedding last summer and kept in contact with them but scheduales kept you from ever going out until now, what to say tostrike that back up? But that's a whole different story that would make this post even longer. But I'm not sure if she was "just being nice" but as someone who went through student teaching, I know when she went through that it is very busy and does take up all your time. Thoughts on that 1 as well would be appreciated.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DonJoseCantosie

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Hey buddy, i think now is definitely the time to send her a message that u and her(Just u and her) should meet up(Ur interests with her). Don't hide ur interest as she might still like u yet unsure. :)
 

Gangster Of Love

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"Hey, what's your number?"

or

"Hi, give me a call, want to tell you something real quick", then invite her to get together. Be very assertive. I think you'll do very good in both situations.
 
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