diablo
Master Don Juan
This situation isn't important to me anymore, but I would like to use it as a learning experience. It's a bit convoluted, so bear with me.
My friend, a true DJ, met this girl at a club, had her take him to her house, and proceeded to sex the night away. I wasn't out with him that night, so I never knew any of the details as to who it was.
A few weeks ago, me and him are having margarita's at On The Border, and he gets a playful tap on the shoulder by a waitress. Cute, with a nice body and pretty face. I later ask about her, and he told me the story about the club. The next night, we're at a different club and I'm pissed drunk, as is everyone else. At closing time, I run into her and get her number. I call a few times, never quite making a close.
I call again, and she tells me why she never showed much interest. She thought that I was gay. I've never been more shocked than when I heard that - I of course asked why she would have thought this, and she said it was from my demeanor. I care about my appearance, and don't waste any money buying anything that I think would improve it... of course, nothing like makeup... but hair gels, the current style in A&F clothing (then again, with a 40% discount, why not), and tooth whitener thingies... I shave my arms, but this was started back when I used to wrestle (state champ '02).
She apparently gets the picture, so I go over and visit for a while. Then later that night, I go back over to her place and she and I go out to a different club with a few of her friends (she rode with me, after I picked her up from her apartment). After the club, we went back to her place and messed around a bit. I'd actually put it in and started my thing when she said "stop, we shouldn't be doing this". Yada yada. No means no, so I stopped - not without thinking bitter thoughts... blue balls to an extreme.
We talked every day or two, going out a few times, then things just tapered off. On one of the last times we were lounging around, she said "I know you couldn't be gay, you're way too horny for that"... Anyone have any clue as to what I did wrong, could have done differently, or didn't do at all?
I think that I perhaps didn't do the whole "action-date", instead taking her to the cliche things like dinner and a movie. Not to mention, I showed my attraction far too much by initiating every date and calling once a day, though she did her fair share too. Obviously, this all happened before I happened across this website. Now that I've got it to learn from, AFC mistakes such as these shouldn't happen so often anymore.
Opinions?
My friend, a true DJ, met this girl at a club, had her take him to her house, and proceeded to sex the night away. I wasn't out with him that night, so I never knew any of the details as to who it was.
A few weeks ago, me and him are having margarita's at On The Border, and he gets a playful tap on the shoulder by a waitress. Cute, with a nice body and pretty face. I later ask about her, and he told me the story about the club. The next night, we're at a different club and I'm pissed drunk, as is everyone else. At closing time, I run into her and get her number. I call a few times, never quite making a close.
I call again, and she tells me why she never showed much interest. She thought that I was gay. I've never been more shocked than when I heard that - I of course asked why she would have thought this, and she said it was from my demeanor. I care about my appearance, and don't waste any money buying anything that I think would improve it... of course, nothing like makeup... but hair gels, the current style in A&F clothing (then again, with a 40% discount, why not), and tooth whitener thingies... I shave my arms, but this was started back when I used to wrestle (state champ '02).
She apparently gets the picture, so I go over and visit for a while. Then later that night, I go back over to her place and she and I go out to a different club with a few of her friends (she rode with me, after I picked her up from her apartment). After the club, we went back to her place and messed around a bit. I'd actually put it in and started my thing when she said "stop, we shouldn't be doing this". Yada yada. No means no, so I stopped - not without thinking bitter thoughts... blue balls to an extreme.
We talked every day or two, going out a few times, then things just tapered off. On one of the last times we were lounging around, she said "I know you couldn't be gay, you're way too horny for that"... Anyone have any clue as to what I did wrong, could have done differently, or didn't do at all?
I think that I perhaps didn't do the whole "action-date", instead taking her to the cliche things like dinner and a movie. Not to mention, I showed my attraction far too much by initiating every date and calling once a day, though she did her fair share too. Obviously, this all happened before I happened across this website. Now that I've got it to learn from, AFC mistakes such as these shouldn't happen so often anymore.
Opinions?
