Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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dude99

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U all made some good points- went on the trip. Everything went well for the first few days. She came to hotel we had a great time and she even took me out to dinner all expenses paid by her. Towards the end of the trip we went to a Halloween party so I can show her my friends and what not but she was very distant even tho I tried to make her feel comfortable. She went to bathroom and never returned and I found her outside waiting for me. I asked why she didn’t let me know she wasnt coming back. Anyway went to the football game the following day and again she was detatched from my friends and the entire scene. She appeared to have a problem will me just letting loose and having fun with my friends. Caught her rolling her eyes and she said something off color to me in the Parking lot like “why r u looking at me / annoying me “ so I just didn’t say anything back, maintained frame bc it was raining and thought she was behaving this way because she was shy and upset about the rain (we left early due to that) we made it back to hotel and I never got an apology so when things calmed down I confronted her and said the way she’s been behaving is unacceptable and that she needs to go/ she packed her things and on the way out the door she said “you are clumsy and need to grow up” and she said I can give u a hug before I leave / I said a hug is not what I want (what I wanted was an apology) so I just didn’t chase after her and let the hotel door shut and let her leave / I got this long text about how we’re just not right for each other and how a long distance relationship won’t work (although she was formerly willing to work on it and potentially move to me and was legit in tears the day before saying she likes me so much and wanted a future) I did not respond to the message / what I want is a turn around in her behavior, a sincere apology and to make it work although it’s not my call to make so I’m walking away and cutting contact because I reject bull**** from women /thoughts?
So she turned out to not be the girl she was on the cruise. I saw that coming.

Don't reward the killjoy with any more of your time or attention.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheGambino

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Yeah, been there done that. Save time and go find other chicks, her interest level dropped. Nothing You can do to get it back up, only moving on.
 

marmel75

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Anyone else ?
I mean what advise do you want?

The advise I have is that you need more options. The more options you have the less any of them are worth.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don’t care that much at thus point but just to see how good u all are.. what are chances I’ll hear from her again? And what bull**** would I hear if she did and in what time frame?

I’ll post in here the outcome.
 

devilkingx2

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U all made some good points- went on the trip. Everything went well for the first few days. She came to hotel we had a great time and she even took me out to dinner all expenses paid by her. Towards the end of the trip we went to a Halloween party so I can show her my friends and what not but she was very distant even tho I tried to make her feel comfortable. She went to bathroom and never returned and I found her outside waiting for me. I asked why she didn’t let me know she wasnt coming back. Anyway went to the football game the following day and again she was detatched from my friends and the entire scene. She appeared to have a problem will me just letting loose and having fun with my friends. Caught her rolling her eyes and she said something off color to me in the Parking lot like “why r u looking at me / annoying me “ so I just didn’t say anything back, maintained frame bc it was raining and thought she was behaving this way because she was shy and upset about the rain (we left early due to that) we made it back to hotel and I never got an apology so when things calmed down I confronted her and said the way she’s been behaving is unacceptable and that she needs to go/ she packed her things and on the way out the door she said “you are clumsy and need to grow up” and she said I can give u a hug before I leave / I said a hug is not what I want (what I wanted was an apology) so I just didn’t chase after her and let the hotel door shut and let her leave / I got this long text about how we’re just not right for each other and how a long distance relationship won’t work (although she was formerly willing to work on it and potentially move to me and was legit in tears the day before saying she likes me so much and wanted a future) I did not respond to the message / what I want is a turn around in her behavior, a sincere apology and to make it work although it’s not my call to make so I’m walking away and cutting contact because I reject bull**** from women /thoughts?
as soon as she started acting like that is when you cut her loose and talk to another girl, she'll come crawling back if she decides she wants to act right
 

dude99

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I don’t care that much at thus point but just to see how good u all are.. what are chances I’ll hear from her again? And what bull**** would I hear if she did and in what time frame?

I’ll post in here the outcome.
You will only hear from her again if she runs out of options. If she is getting any attention from any other dude chances of you hearing from her are slim.

And even if you do. Ignore. Delete.
 
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