Advice please

[narcissist]

I can feel myself gassing out on the 100 days 100 sets challenge.

Yes it is true that I have succeeded in approaching 1 girl a day for the past 42 days, however in the beginning I would approach 1 and then another 20 throughout the day where action was my default. Now, I find myself only approaching 1-3 and find myself reluctant to approach others and give myself internal excuses for not doing it.

I am motivationally gassing out and can feel a little bit of approach anxiety creeping back with internal justifications to avoid the approach.

How do you guys stay motivated to approach?

Can you give me advice?

 

[wifehunter]

for me, approaches just happen...I don't plan them...totally improvised. THAT makes it exciting!

Get out there, have no expectations...see what happens!

Go be awesome!

(note: this works better, if you're NOT trying to get laid.)

 

[narcissist]

My solution so far is to hold myself to a 5 sets a day minimum for a week straight and at least 1 set has to be uncomfortable. This will challenge me to do sets that I don't want to do and challenge the inner dialogue that has been creeping back up.

 

[narcissist]

for me, approaches just happen...I don't plan them...totally improvised. THAT makes it exciting!

Get out there, have no expectations...see what happens!

Go be awesome!

(note: this works better, if you're NOT trying to get laid.)

Thanks for the advice. I don't think the "let the sets just happen" strategy is good for me though because then the internal dialogue takes over and I don't do any. I have to hold myself to a standard.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I can feel myself gassing out on the 100 days 100 sets challenge.

Yes it is true that I have succeeded in approaching 1 girl a day for the past 42 days, however in the beginning I would approach 1 and then another 20 throughout the day where action was my default. Now, I find myself only approaching 1-3 and find myself reluctant to approach others and give myself internal excuses for not doing it.

I am motivationally gassing out and can feel a little bit of approach anxiety creeping back with internal justifications to avoid the approach.

How do you guys stay motivated to approach?

Can you give me advice?

The only reason you would want to be mass approaching like this is as an exercise to get over 'approach anxiety'. You probably don't have approach anxiety, so tone it right down, and just approach a woman when you feel a genuine desire to meet her.

Avoid approaching just for approaching's sake.

 

[cola]

Don't go out of your way to approach or even think about it.
Just do your standard every day sh*t.
Gym, work, gas station, trip to the weed man etc
And when you see a girl who gives you a chubby just say hi.

 

[wifehunter]

Thanks for the advice. I don't think the "let the sets just happen" strategy is good for me though because then the internal dialogue takes over and I don't do any. I have to hold myself to a standard.

Too many rules, on yourself, makes you not smooth.

How are you going to be smooth if you don't go with the flow?

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Here's is an example of my 'cold approach' just completed 5 minutes ago.

At Starbucks, the woman seated nearby looks at me with that semi-hostile defensive look. I calmly look back. I carry on with what I'm doing. 10 minutes later, another glance, and this time slightly less hostile. I carry on with my thing for 10 minutes, then pop up and ask her how to connect my phone to the wifi here [in a foreign country]. Once done, strike up conversation. Ask her what she is doing later, and how about a beer, and swap numbers... so easy... when it is in fact a 'warm approach'. She looked at me/ checked me out twice.

 

[Trump]

Here's is an example of my 'cold approach' just completed 5 minutes ago.

At Starbucks, the woman seated nearby looks at me with that semi-hostile defensive look. I calmly look back. I carry on with what I'm doing. 10 minutes later, another glance, and this time slightly less hostile. I carry on with my thing for 10 minutes, then pop up and ask her how to connect my phone to the wifi here [in a foreign country]. Once done, strike up conversation. Ask her what she is doing later, and how about a beer, and swap numbers... so easy... when it is in fact a 'warm approach'. She looked at me/ checked me out twice.

Just curious, how old is the girl?

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Just curious, how old is the girl?

The reason I bothered was she was a good age... maybe 30ish.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I find I have to really be in the right mood and have enough energy to go out and make an effort to talk to people. Though when I do, I am basically talking to everyone I meet, within reason.

I'm just walking past and saying hello when I catch people's eye. My mate and I recently went out and attempted to start a high-5 revolution, trying to see who could get the most. Most people won't engage with you properly; remember 98% of people are socially asleep, or closed off in their own little worlds even when out in public. The idea is to be part of the woke 2% and to find others like you.

This is where wifehunter and I are similar. I wouldn't even call it approaching; it puts too much expectation on it. Better for me to go out literally to meet new people.

'Approaching' is a good starter exercise in a classical sense, for guys with little or no experience.
But if it's all you ever do, and never graduate to just being a confident social guy, you can stagnate, as you finding, and your behaviour can become robotic.

This is where we put 'technique' (i.e. 'approaching') aside and start to become naturally social, natural ladies' men. It has to just become party of who you are as a person, how you behave with everyone, every day if you are going to realise fullest potential.

You can get out of your own head by leaving the approaching behind, and just make sure you meet who you like the look of. Take the expectation out of the equation, and the pressure disappears too.

 

[Reykhel]

I can feel myself gassing out on the 100 days 100 sets challenge.

How do you guys stay motivated to approach?

What's your overriding reason for the "challenge"?

Is there something you specifically want to improve or achieve?

It sounds like you have the idea of "one approach" in your head and you maybe trying to just "quickly get it done" and "out of the way"..........this would not be an enjoyable process.

An example of a reason might be simply to become really good at day game. (or even to overcome social anxiety/shyness).
Now you have an overriding reason/a purpose. The "mini challenges" are then set within the framework of that purpose.

The one approach a day, i see as too problematic......your mind can purposely fvck it up just to get it out of the way. It lacks a sense
of self righteousness. It's easy to self sabotage.

Now, something like "one number per day" challenge sets it up a little bit better. Now you can't fvck up sets. Each time you throw a set, you've got to do another. So you've got to mentally focus and not self sabotage, as your challenge is the number close. Or course you could kind of "self sabotage" by going for "easy prey". But at least you would still be fulfilling your overriding reason: becoming good at day game. You should easily get a number or an insta date within 1-5 approaches.

 

[TheGambino]

Warm approaches Work best You amateurs. She should glance and You smile Towards her if she smiles back You approach....

 

[Reykhel]

Warm approaches Work best You amateurs. She should glance and You smile Towards her if she smiles back You approach....

I was ignoring all those who are knocking day game. But go on, enlighten me......

I see all that ****e "she should glance and you smile towards her if she smiles back you approach....." as very passive, like as if you
are waiting for the girl's permission to approach her. It sounds really beta and nice guy approach.

I would bet that this mentality is coming from FEAR. I would bet that you've never day gamed as you have some wired up belief such as "I would annoy her" and "it's creepy" or some crap like that which stems from basically approval seeking beta mentality. Basically these excuses are rationalizations. You rationalize why you haven't got the balls to approach.

Then feeling smug as you've justified you're beta approval seeking fear based rationalizations you pompously declare "day game cold approaching is for amateurs". Joining the crowd above. You hide your fear and your true beta nature by hiding in agreement with the above nodding dog crowd.

So tell me.....what would you do if you saw a hot woman across the street who turns your head......but she hasn't seen you as she's looking at a map or fiddling with her phone.........you want her....

What would you do? Would you say to yourself "damn man, she's hot....but as she hasn't given me any IOI's I cannot approach her"

Never mind that she didn't have the opportunity to give you an IOI...........

You, because you are an approval seeking beta who waits for the woman's permission.....would let her go. And you would disingenuously rationalize to yourself by saying "oh if she had of given me an IOI, I would have approached her.........but I'm a warm approacher......those cold approachers are creepy. Glad I'm not like that"

.....when really if you were honest with yourself you'd admit that you have NO BALLS.

The OP, while you may label him an "amateur" has more balls than you will ever have in your life.

By the way, how is your alcohol problem? Still drink driving?

 

[TheGambino]

I was ignoring all those who are knocking day game. But go on, enlighten me......

I see all that ****e "she should glance and you smile towards her if she smiles back you approach....." as very passive, like as if you
are waiting for the girl's permission to approach her. It sounds really beta and nice guy approach.

I would bet that this mentality is coming from FEAR. I would bet that you've never day gamed as you have some wired up belief such as "I would annoy her" and "it's creepy" or some crap like that which stems from basically approval seeking beta mentality. Basically these excuses are rationalizations. You rationalize why you haven't got the balls to approach.

Then feeling smug as you've justified you're beta approval seeking fear based rationalizations you pompously declare "day game cold approaching is for amateurs". Joining the crowd above. You hide your fear and your true beta nature by hiding in agreement with the above nodding dog crowd.

So tell me.....what would you do if you saw a hot woman across the street who turns your head......but she hasn't seen you as she's looking at a map or fiddling with her phone.........you want her....

What would you do? Would you say to yourself "damn man, she's hot....but as she hasn't given me any IOI's I cannot approach her"

Never mind that she didn't have the opportunity to give you an IOI...........

You, because you are an approval seeking beta who waits for the woman's permission.....would let her go. And you would disingenuously rationalize to yourself by saying "oh if she had of given me an IOI, I would have approached her.........but I'm a warm approacher......those cold approachers are creepy. Glad I'm not like that"

.....when really if you were honest with yourself you'd admit that you have NO BALLS.

The OP, while you may label him an "amateur" has more balls than you will ever have in your life.

By the way, how is your alcohol problem? Still drink driving?

Your telling me Im beta because I look for interest in a chick before I go up there? IT maken things way easier because she gave You the green light to approach. IT Will make the Convo easier and iT sets the tone too flirt. But I cold approach too, depends on the situation I just love to flirt with eye contact First. Build Some tension before You actually talk..

I dont buy your crap since I approached lots of girls in my life... warm AND cold but I prefer warm.

I am actually attractive enough that girls start the eye contact flirt First most of the times. Me no balls? Lmfao I pull out the craziest approaches whenever I feel like it

 

[Reykhel]

Your telling me Im beta because I look for interest in a chick before I go up there? IT maken things way easier because she gave You the green light to approach. IT Will make the Convo easier and iT sets the tone too flirt. But I cold approach too, depends on the situation I just love to flirt with eye contact First. Build Some tension before You actually talk..

I dont buy your crap since I approached lots of girls in my life... warm AND cold but I prefer warm.

I am actually attractive enough that girls start the eye contact flirt First most of the times. Me no balls? Lmfao I pull out the craziest approaches everyday

I don't doubt that you have approached....

However, it's clear from the drivel that you've written above that:
1. You know nothing about the dynamics of day game
2. When you approach women you "wing it".
3. You are someone who is unsure of himself

You rely on a girl to give you an IOI so that it makes the conversation easier. She gives you the green light and you go on seeking rapport I bet. A confident man is sure of himself when he's conversing with anyone, he doesn't rely on the woman making the conversation easier. Beta nice guys do. You.

Look, I could care less about what you do. I would have ignored your bull****e response to the OP telling him that warm approach is the way to go, just as I ignored the other worthless replies. Look at one of the replies.....it's from a laid back stoner who waits for a woman to give him a chubby (whatever that means) then he might approach, another is from a 50 year old man who constantly writes that he is "beyond game" in fact, he is "post game", he sits in starbucks all day and waits until an ugly easy target glances in his direction..........all worthless replies in relation to the advice the OP is seeking...........they are all sublty belittling the guy form day gaming. It's not the advice he's looking for.......then you come along and pompously call him "amateur".......when you are clearly clueless.

Granted, what's clear is that you were projecting. Anyone who is out there doing daygame can see from what you've written that you are the amateur.

(very unsure of yourself.....why did you edit that last part about you being so attractive......)

Personally, I believe daygame is the epitome of game. The OP deserves praise the actual advice that he's looking for. I don't get that you are all subtly belittling him for day gaming.

 

[TheGambino]

I don't doubt that you have approached....

However, it's clear from the drivel that you've written above that:
1. You know nothing about the dynamics of day game
2. When you approach women you "wing it".
3. You are someone who is unsure of himself

You rely on a girl to give you an IOI so that it makes the conversation easier. She gives you the green light and you go on seeking rapport I bet. A confident man is sure of himself when he's conversing with anyone, he doesn't rely on the woman making the conversation easier. Beta nice guys do. You.

Look, I could care less about what you do. I would have ignored your bull****e response to the OP telling him that warm approach is the way to go, just as I ignored the other worthless replies. Look at one of the replies.....it's from a laid back stoner who waits for a woman to give him a chubby (whatever that means) then he might approach, another is from a 50 year old man who constantly writes that he is "beyond game" in fact, he is "post game", he sits in starbucks all day and waits until an ugly easy target glances in his direction..........all worthless replies in relation to the advice the OP is seeking...........they are all sublty belittling the guy form day gaming. It's not the advice he's looking for.......then you come along and pompously call him "amateur".......when you are clearly clueless.

Granted, what's clear is that you were projecting. Anyone who is out there doing daygame can see from what you've written that you are the amateur.

(very unsure of yourself.....why did you edit that last part about you being so attractive......)

Personally, I believe daygame is the epitome of game. The OP deserves praise the actual advice that he's looking for. I don't get that you are all subtly belittling him for day gaming.

You really dont know me at all fam. Dont think you can filosofize about me based on a comment. You are the amateur, being all mad. I can choose everyday whoever I want to f8ck. Hell I could f8ck a different girl everyday for a whole week without flakes. They come running When I call. This Dude calls me a beta Lmfao.

 

[Reykhel]

You really dont know me at all fam. Dont think you can filosofize about me based on a comment. You are the amateur, being all mad. I can choose everyday whoever I want to f8ck. Hell I could f8ck a different girl everyday for a whole week without flakes. They come running When I call. This Dude calls me a beta Lmfao.

LOL I think you might be the one who's "mad" you keep going back and editing your responses to me. Your initial response was fine, but then you added to it a load of hysterical nonsense!!! Fvck sake man, know when to quit..

Let's see.....

I can choose everyday whoever I want to f8ck.

You're a five foot four midget. I doubt if you could choose everyday whoever you want to fvck. That's just fantasy.

Hell I could f8ck a different girl everyday for a whole week without flakes.

Right because you have a harem of six bytches right? Oh isn't the internet a wonderful place, we can be anyone who we choose to be.
You're mental.

They come running When I call.

A few months ago, you were crying about "fvcking things up with your oneititis in the club. Afterwards you get arrested for drink driving as you were drunk as fvck. That's quit the transformation.
Are you perhaps drunk now? Or stoned at least.

This Dude calls me a beta

An approval seeking beta. You remind me of the midget from the movie "en Brugges".......must be on the horse tranquilizers again.
Stay out of those hash house coffee shops fella. Smoking that ****e will stunt your growth....oh wait...

 

[TheGambino]

LOL I think you might be the one who's "mad" you keep going back and editing your responses to me. Your initial response was fine, but then you added to it a load of hysterical nonsense!!! Fvck sake man, know when to quit..

Let's see.....

You're a five foot four midget. I doubt if you could choose everyday whoever you want to fvck. That's just fantasy.


Right because you have a harem of six bytches right? Oh isn't the internet a wonderful place, we can be anyone who we choose to be.
You're mental.


A few months ago, you were crying about "fvcking things up with your oneititis in the club. Afterwards you get arrested for drink driving as you were drunk as fvck. That's quit the transformation.
Are you perhaps drunk now? Or stoned at least.


An approval seeking beta. You remind me of the midget from the movie "en Brugges".......must be on the horse tranquilizers again.
Stay out of those hash house coffee shops fella. Smoking that ****e will stunt your growth....oh wait...

Keep hating Dude, my moves, intelligence how to game and confidence gets me laid. My height aint stopping me. Napoleon Bonaparte conquered Europe and he was 5,1. All going Well for me. You should quit, get a premium p0rnhub account and order a pizza.

And btw 5 of my 6 counted harem are 5,5 too only one is taller then me and she loves to jump on iT.

 

[Reykhel]

Napoleon Bonaparte conquered Europe and he was 5,1.

Napoleón didn't claim to have conquered Europe via an internet thread. What he did was witnessed.

my moves, intelligence how to game and confidence gets me laid.

Maybe, maybe not....
I don't believe it's difficult for anyone to get laid. I fail to understand how some fellas make this a complicated affair. Anybody can get laid by being clean and presentable and putting themselves out there. Anybody. I find it hard to believe fellas are not getting laid. Usually it's just their own mental blocks that are holding them back. Sure you're approaching, sure you're getting laid.....I don't doubt that, I've already stated that to you.
However, that being said......some of your claims are outlandish. The claims you are making go BEYOND THE NORMAL.....
You are claiming to be able to fvck any girl you want on any given day of the week.....that's an outlandish claim
You are claiming to have a harem of six women .......that's an outlandish claim...

...When you make outlandish claims. i.e. above the normal, be prepared to be questioned on it and supply proof...

Try understand what's going on. Reflect on it. Ask yourself is that a reasonable expectation.

Breath deeply before replying. Think about it so you don't have to keep running back and editing.