“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Advice please.

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It's good to be pretty selfish and self absorbed but you can be this way to an unhealthy extent that can hurt your chances with women, dating, etc.

How can you identify if you are these things to much and what are ways to tone it down? Thoughts, ideas??
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

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Love is like an economic currency. The more you give it out, you'll find that you won't have any for yourself. It is good to be selfish, but provide when the time is appropriate.
 

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Love is like an economic currency. The more you give it out, you'll find that you won't have any for yourself. It is good to be selfish, but provide when the time is appropriate.
like being a people pleaser and feeling resentful when people don't reciprocate?
 

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like being a people pleaser and feeling resentful when people don't reciprocate?
Yes, just focus on your life. Instead of the pedestal being placed under everyone's else's feet, you knock them off that pedestal and you stand on it. There is no need to feel resentful towards others because it hurts you more than it hurts them.
 

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It's good to be pretty selfish and self absorbed but you can be this way to an unhealthy extent that can hurt your chances with women, dating, etc.

How can you identify if you are these things to much and what are ways to tone it down? Thoughts, ideas??
You can't always say no. You have to do things she wants to do sometimes in a relationship. Listen for her likes. Then suggest them like its your idea and what you want to do. She gets some of what she wants without you seeming to give in. You are correct. If you are selfish all the time she will eventually tire of it.
 

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I would say that I'm a very selfish person but other people would disagree.

Why? I'm only selfish towards things I actually want and care about. If someone is doing something or needs something that I don't need or care about, I'll help them. Goes the same if they're in my way, I'll stop and help them but if we're aiming for the same goal I might just walk by.

Just my 0.2.
 

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Always remember two things:

(1) You can not make someone else happy by making yourself miserable.
(2) If you are not happy, it is impossible for you to make others happy.

Keep saying this too yourself and it is much easier to develop as selfish attitude. It's okay to be selfish, because if you are not thinking of yourself first, you can not have quality thoughts about others... It's like putting on your oxygen mask before your kids... you can't help your kid if you are knocked out. First step in a healthy relationship is to make sure YOU are healthy by ensuring YOUR needs are met.
 

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Always remember two things:

(1) You can not make someone else happy by making yourself miserable.
(2) If you are not happy, it is impossible for you to make others happy.

Keep saying this too yourself and it is much easier to develop as selfish attitude. It's okay to be selfish, because if you are not thinking of yourself first, you can not have quality thoughts about others... It's like putting on your oxygen mask before your kids... you can't help your kid if you are knocked out. First step in a healthy relationship is to make sure YOU are healthy by ensuring YOUR needs are met.
Trust me I do this in relationships with women. I've never even spent much money on women. In fact women have spent more money on me than I have them if you add up the total, way more.

I've never spent more than $ 20 on gift for a woman that's not my family member.

I'm not new to this site.
 

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Love is like an economic currency. The more you give it out, you'll find that you won't have any for yourself. It is good to be selfish, but provide when the time is appropriate.
I disagree. The more generous you are, the more the Universe will reward you. I try to improve the situation of every person who crosses my path, and the path continues to get brighter.
 

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How can you identify if you are these things to much and what are ways to tone it down? Thoughts, ideas??
Measure it with how successful you are on your first dates. If you get a second date out of a woman, then there's no need to adjust anything. If you're not getting a second date, then you need to examine what you're doing.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Trust me I do this in relationships with women. I've never even spent much money on women. In fact women have spent more money on me than I have them if you add up the total, way more.

I've never spent more than $ 20 on gift for a woman that's not my family member.

I'm not new to this site.
You are right to do so. Let me tell you something, once you buy really expensive gift for your GF ( in yours best intentions ), if she has even a slight doubt about your relationship, she will resent you.
She will feel pressure to return the favor since it’s such a generous gift, and since she probably doesn’t have much money, she will go to sex and favors. But that’s not true desire, its negotiated one, and she will hate you for putting her in that position.

Im not saying you should not be generous to the person you love, but be VERY aware of her reaction, it might not be what you expect, even if youre together for years now.
 

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I disagree. The more generous you are, the more the Universe will reward you. I try to improve the situation of every person who crosses my path, and the path continues to get brighter.
People will take your generosity as a sign of weakness and take advantage over your kindness.
 
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