Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
like being a people pleaser and feeling resentful when people don't reciprocate?
Yes, just focus on your life. Instead of the pedestal being placed under everyone's else's feet, you knock them off that pedestal and you stand on it. There is no need to feel resentful towards others because it hurts you more than it hurts them.
You can't always say no. You have to do things she wants to do sometimes in a relationship. Listen for her likes. Then suggest them like its your idea and what you want to do. She gets some of what she wants without you seeming to give in. You are correct. If you are selfish all the time she will eventually tire of it.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Trust me I do this in relationships with women. I've never even spent much money on women. In fact women have spent more money on me than I have them if you add up the total, way more.
I disagree. The more generous you are, the more the Universe will reward you. I try to improve the situation of every person who crosses my path, and the path continues to get brighter.
Measure it with how successful you are on your first dates. If you get a second date out of a woman, then there's no need to adjust anything. If you're not getting a second date, then you need to examine what you're doing.
You are right to do so. Let me tell you something, once you buy really expensive gift for your GF ( in yours best intentions ), if she has even a slight doubt about your relationship, she will resent you.
People will take your generosity as a sign of weakness and take advantage over your kindness.
