"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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pvf94

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Girl calls me last night at about 8pm est....
Ask's me if I want to go see a play the next day at 7pm est (today)

I agreed to go.

She imed me on aim today....asked if I was still going..
I Told her to call me when she was ready to pick me up....she agreed to do so..


She has never flaked yet...been out with her 3-4 times in the past month

But she didnt call at all...not here to get me, and I havent heard a word...and the play started 45 minutes ago.

How do I handle the situation! =P

IF she call's later on, ignore it? yea?

Pretend nothing happened?

Fill me in Fellow Dj's.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is not about handle the situation....go for it, dude!!!! if she call you again, talk to her normally and see what happens....if she've invited you is because she want you........
 

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The thing is.....she seemingly blew me off... Read the post carefully
 

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Oh yeah, you're right sorry!!!! Forget about that chick....she's just a teaser!!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You handle it by never speaking to her again. Ever.

Remove her from your phone and IM - she's out of your life.

She may want to make it 'cool' with you so she feels better about herself for blowing you off (probably for a better proposition out with her friends or some other guy), so don't give her the oppertunity.

Then chuckle to yourself if she makes attempts to contact you and eventually gives up feeling like you don't give a sh*t.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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musclyjerk said:
You handle it by never speaking to her again. Ever.

Remove her from your phone and IM - she's out of your life.

She may want to make it 'cool' with you so she feels better about herself for blowing you off (probably for a better proposition out with her friends or some other guy), so don't give her the oppertunity.

Then chuckle to yourself if she makes attempts to contact you and eventually gives up feeling like you don't give a sh*t.

The Muscly Jerk

That would be kinda hard to do....Shes been my only real friend that is a girl for near 4 years.
 

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When she calls, don't let her off easy. I know guys on here have a thing about not showing that something bothers you but that only applys to when your about to scream and biach like a little girl....(or a guy who can't control him self)

When she calls;

you: "Wtf, happened....you can't even call and let me know, so that i don't waste my time???? what kind of **** is that????
her; Sorry sorry sorry....blah blah blah.....
You; I'll let you off easy this time, but next time you call if your not showing up so that i'm not sitting around like a loser wating for your azz, alright????


PROBLEM SOLVED.
 

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Real friends don't do what she did - get rid of her, I sack guy friends off for less. I've told 3 close male friends where to go in the last 16 months for acting like ignorant @ssholes. One I'd grown up with for 15 years who was my 'BEST' buddy. Don't take it off her. Show her the door.

You don't need people like that in your life.

She won't be anything but your friend either if you've been her 'friend' for 4 years.

Sorry buddy, I'm beginning to wonder what it is you actually want with this girl.. I didn't realise you were asking what you should do with a friend. I thought it was a prospect you've seen a few times and you wanted to sleep with or something.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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musclyjerk said:
Real friends don't do what she did - get rid of her, I sack guy friends off for less. I've told 3 close male friends where to go in the last 16 months for acting like ignorant @ssholes. One I'd grown up with for 15 years who was my 'BEST' buddy. Don't take it off her. Show her the door.

You don't need people like that in your life.

She won't be anything but your friend either if you've been her 'friend' for 4 years.

Sorry buddy, I'm beginning to wonder what it is you actually want with this girl.. I didn't realise you were asking what you should do with a friend. I thought it was a prospect you've seen a few times and you wanted to sleep with or something.

The Muscly Jerk

Wouldnt mind hittin it :rockon:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You have to call her up and ask her if she's okay. Ask her if everything is fine because your worried that something bad had to have happened for her not to have called you back.
 

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pvf94 said:
Wouldnt mind hittin it :rockon:
Then you should've......4 years ago.

Let her go bro. Who cares if she's your only female friend?
Since when do we seek female *friends*?
 

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Hehe, I feel you. What's the update on this situation pvf94, have you both talked since or has she tried to contact you?

The Muscly Jerk

She was on aim at unusual times.....ummm I saw her come on once and waited for me to im her I bet... * i was away *

She left after about 45 minutes....than she got on late around 11:30....and this time she IM'd me, said "hey what are you up to" My away message was up, and she got the obvious auto response that she knew she would get. My away message simply said "later"

She waited for about 45 minutes again than logged off.....needless to say I didnt respond, I was Supposed to be afk.

Weird.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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musclyjerk said:
Sounds good to me. Keep up the good work.

Don't you love it? Ha.

The Muscly Jerk
Im not seeing how it sounds good? She blew me off earlier in the evening and than tried to get my attention twice.....that doesnt sound good....please define what ya mean muscle's =P
 

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What if she bugs and bugs and bugs me.....does she deserve any of my attention?
 

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Update...


Everytime she gets on aim....she im's me...even if im away, The funny thing is....I always initiated the convo.


This is very amusing to say the least.....


rofl, As I was typing this she did it again

And im not responding....god is it wrong to feel good? When I should be feeling bad that she flaked on me? :)
 

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pvf94 said:
Update...


Everytime she gets on aim....she im's me...even if im away, The funny thing is....I always initiated the convo.


This is very amusing to say the least.....


rofl, As I was typing this she did it again

And im not responding....god is it wrong to feel good? When I should be feeling bad that she flaked on me? :)
Im starting to wonder if this was all planned by her. She could of flaked on you on purpose in an attempt to create interest in herself. If this is true she is now realizing she failed to create interest and is now trying to recover.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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