Advice please

[mpimpin]

Guys I need some advice. I asked this girl out that has a boyfriend. He is three years younger then her and a total Afc. He watched her and I together for about an hour the other night. He just sat in her car watching us. So anyways I use some ****y funny and she begans saying we should hang out sometime. So I told her that there might be an opening in my schedule Thursday night and that I was planning on going to a local coffee shop if she wanted to come to. She said she'd have to think about it. So i busted her for that with some ****y funny about having to babysit her younger boyfriend that night etc. Well I hang up with her and a bit later I get a message on myspace from her saying she isn't sure what is going on with her and her boyfriend and that she'll tell me soon whether or not she is going Thursday. Then she asks about me and this girl (my female wingman) she saw me with last week. ........ How should I respond to this? I need to keep up the ****y funny. I don't wanna appear to afc'ish. I was thinking about putting a time limit on her response. Saying her window of oppurtunity closes wednesday, and there might not be another opening in my schedule for awhile. But even if i do that im not sure how to respond about my female friend. Should I say she is just a friend? Seems a bit weak to me

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

yeah it sounds weak to me too.

i don't know, it's tricky to me... but if shes your wingwoman... you could ask her about this also... so she won't feel 'betrayed' if you say something like: "oh... she's just some girl who likes my company".... etc.

like I said... i don't know. but i'd like to know what other people's opinion is on what i said... and what they think of your situation also.

 

[mpimpin]

as would I man. Come on DJ's I know you got some thoughts on this. Im gonna respond to her message within the next few hours so give me some of that DJ advice.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

sorry to disappoint you with MY reply... but if no one does... just try

ummm

"she's one one of my buddies, actually she's been helping me lately by *pretending* to be my girlfriend so i dont have to beat all of these chicks away with a stick.... but there's this *ONE* persistant girl..." <then obviously stare at her like shes the persistant one>

dunno dude. sound okay?

 

[Krang!]

Just tell her that she is a friend and avoid the subject That will keep her guessing wich is always good!

I wouldnt do the window of oppurtunity thing you are talking about, at best its only weird but also it smells a little desperation to me. Youre going to this place and if she tags along: fine, if she doesnt: fine. You don't care remember?

 

[mpimpin]

Thanks guys. Krang I needed that reminder. And Mike I actually like that idea but im not sure it'll fit here. Would work in person but probably not as effective in an email. Unless I was to avoid it for right now... theres a thought. anyways thanks

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

ohhh an email. well why not just see the chick in person... and hangout with her until she asks you. then tell her. but do what you feel is right. k.

 

[mpimpin]

I sent her a reply back but avoided the issue of my wingwoman. I also didn't say anything about her thinking about going out Thursday. Just said some more ****y funny stuff about her dating someone younger etc. Then made an inside joke about her and I having sex. ( she had already brought this up on the phone earlier . I can play off the whole mystery thing better in person when/if she asks about my wingwoman again.