Sebrings215
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alright another question...how do i show her whats she lost?! i aint friends with her on FB
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Advice please guys
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You no contact her. When she reaches out, you are busy. You do not reach out to her. You do not chase her. You let her come to you. When she does you have options. You have plates. If you can spare any time then you fit her in but you make it clear she is NOT a priority in your life what so ever
Sebrings215
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Cheers dude, i know for a fact she will be in contact again, either when things go wrong with her current bloke or she gets pissed. isit bad that i want that??
obviously we dont speak anymore via text or phone and i dont have her on social media but i do have her family on there. delete them off or keep them on??
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If you don't remove her, you will look and it will bother you... trust me on this one...
Family did nothing to you. If you get along with them i wouldn't have a problem having them in my social media. Her on the other hand, is it bad you want her current relationship to fail? I guess a little bit. Bottom line is get yourself so busy you don't care what her relationship status is. Date other women. Spin plates. Hit the gym. Do stuff for you, she shouldn't even cross your mind anymore.
When she is in contact again, she isn't a priority. She is completely on the back burner.
Remember you are the prize. If she doesn't see that, next.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think he has. It's her family that is still in his social media.
What would be best if she has a sister and he continues to get along with her. All while nexting the ex and no contacting her
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Cheers fellas, yeah I prob didn't explain properly, I don't have her on social media I removed her for that exact reason I found myself looking to much! But when we spoke at the party she seemed to know a lot about what I was up to, I guess she still keeps an eye on it through her family, her family don't think to highly of me after we split I guess they havnt removed me becuase she still looks!
I'm in the gym 6 days a week anyway which I why I know her bloke don't compare haha I'm just I guess a little disappointed she didn't mean what she said when she was drunk
I'm in the gym 6 days a week anyway which I why I know her bloke don't compare haha I'm just I guess a little disappointed she didn't mean what she said when she was drunk
Sebrings215
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Brothers!!! Its me again! Id say its good to speak to you all again but i only do when my ass is on fire! lol
Cut a long story short the advice you gave me last time was bang on, sacked that bird off and spent the time since spinning plates and focusing on work and the gym!
but here we are again lol i met a girl through a mutual friend and hit it off with her straight away, shes great, shes funny and shes laid back AF! not spun the plate yet but she came out for my birthday this weekend and left with a bloke (her supposed friend) but lied to me about where she went. I knew the bouncers at the club and they filled me in on the truth, we argued and then she text me Monday morning apologizing for lying, we agreed to meet up and clear the air! I took her out for dinner last night, had a great night, chatted till we got kicked out when they closed and then dropped her off!
We are meant to meeting up again this Saturday but F me sideways shes so laid back shes impossible to read, she text me this morning but i haven't messaged her back yet, thing is shes the type of bird that if i don't text her back she wont bother me and pester me but that makes me think she might not be that keen!
so hit me with you best advice on this bird, the laid back bird isnt someone ive come across before so i dont know how to play the situation
Cut a long story short the advice you gave me last time was bang on, sacked that bird off and spent the time since spinning plates and focusing on work and the gym!
but here we are again lol i met a girl through a mutual friend and hit it off with her straight away, shes great, shes funny and shes laid back AF! not spun the plate yet but she came out for my birthday this weekend and left with a bloke (her supposed friend) but lied to me about where she went. I knew the bouncers at the club and they filled me in on the truth, we argued and then she text me Monday morning apologizing for lying, we agreed to meet up and clear the air! I took her out for dinner last night, had a great night, chatted till we got kicked out when they closed and then dropped her off!
We are meant to meeting up again this Saturday but F me sideways shes so laid back shes impossible to read, she text me this morning but i haven't messaged her back yet, thing is shes the type of bird that if i don't text her back she wont bother me and pester me but that makes me think she might not be that keen!
so hit me with you best advice on this bird, the laid back bird isnt someone ive come across before so i dont know how to play the situation
Spin more plates. This one is showing minimum interest if any.
Red flag. She lies.
Do your thing. If this new girl becomes a plate then she becomes a plate. In the meantime stop puttingall your focus on her