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So I've been seeing this chick for a few weeks now and it has been ALL lovely. Her IL is high and I always have a good time in her company.

Fast forward to this weekend:

She calls me after club closing (She is about an hour from me) and I tell her to come down my way and stay over.

She couldnt since she had work at 9am the next morning, which I knew about but forgot with my drunkeness. She said that she would call me when she got home, but I never heard from her again.

I know she was drinking a bit that night, but not plastered.
I am seriously concerned that something happened to this girl and am not sure what to do about it or how to find out.

Her phone has been off since the morning after like it died or something...I have only called three times since then, but have a weird feeling about it.:confused:
 

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lets look at the odds

kidnapped 0.000000001%

murdered 0.00002%

phone battery flat because b*tches talk $hit on the phone and their mobile / cell phones always go flat 89% !!!

phone has been switched off because she went home with another man and she is ducking you 53%

she was too dumb to put her phone on the charger when she got home 22%

her grandmother died so she couldn't turn up for your date **LOL naah just kidding but b*tches luv this excuse

how many grandma's they got LOL ?

her phone was stolen at the club 33%

forget about her. she is fine.

how many other women you working on ?

this chick has your number and she can CALL YOU

keep pimpin' :)


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
 

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Yeah, I got a stable of recruits in the wings. Just got a weird feeling about this one.

She is the type to call me when she get a coffee break at work or when she goes out to get lunch.

I'm just hoping that she is ok. My main reason for concern is that she was drinking and drove home that night...

I'll just assume she's fine until I hear otherwise.
 

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Originally posted by BigMike
So I've been seeing this chick for a few weeks now and it has been ALL lovely. Her IL is high and I always have a good time in her company.

Fast forward to this weekend:

She calls me after club closing (She is about an hour from me) and I tell her to come down my way and stay over.

She couldnt since she had work at 9am the next morning, which I knew about but forgot with my drunkeness. She said that she would call me when she got home, but I never heard from her again.

I know she was drinking a bit that night, but not plastered.
I am seriously concerned that something happened to this girl and am not sure what to do about it or how to find out.

Her phone has been off since the morning after like it died or something...I have only called three times since then, but have a weird feeling about it.:confused:
If she has always been consistent in the past then a little bit of concern is okay. Do you know where she works? In most cases I wouldn't advise calling a girl at work...but if she is usually good about calling and you're worried about her, you could always call her work and just tell her since she didn't call you back you just wanted to make sure she wasn't in a ditch somewhere or hurt. Even though it's a very rare thing for a woman to get raped and killed...IF that did happen, you would be a suspect because of her cell phone records. I think it'd be better to at least make some kind of effort to make sure she's okay. If she is okay, unless she has a good excuse for not calling you, you shouldn't see her anymore.
 

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Re: Re: Advice on this situation.

Originally posted by Wyldfire
If she has always been consistent in the past then a little bit of concern is okay. Do you know where she works? In most cases I wouldn't advise calling a girl at work...but if she is usually good about calling and you're worried about her, you could always call her work and just tell her since she didn't call you back you just wanted to make sure she wasn't in a ditch somewhere or hurt. Even though it's a very rare thing for a woman to get raped and killed...IF that did happen, you would be a suspect because of her cell phone records. I think it'd be better to at least make some kind of effort to make sure she's okay. If she is okay, unless she has a good excuse for not calling you, you shouldn't see her anymore.
All I remember is that she works in a Portuguese cafe. I'm gonna hit google later and see the names of those types of places in her city. Maybe it'll jog my memory...If I get the # I will call and check it out.
 

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Hey...what area does this girl live in? I have a few minutes to kill and I can check online newspapers for any reports of crimes and accidents. I just need to know what area to search.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Hey...what area does this girl live in? I have a few minutes to kill and I can check online newspapers for any reports of crimes and accidents. I just need to know what area to search.
New Bedford, Ma

25years old
 

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Originally posted by BigMike
New Bedford, Ma

25years old
Okay...I'll start looking for something.
 

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I'm not finding anything in the New Bedford newspaper. I'll check TV stations. Was she at a club in New Bedford, too...or was she in another town?
 

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I'm not finding anything in the New Bedford newspaper. I'll check TV stations. Was she at a club in New Bedford, too...or was she in another town?
I dont remember what club she went to. I was, as they say, very drunk when she called me...When I spoke to her she was already in the car leaving the club though.

She does like going to Providence, RI though.
 

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Originally posted by BigMike
I dont remember what club she went to. I was, as they say, very drunk when she called me...When I spoke to her she was already in the car leaving the club though.

She does like going to Providence, RI though.
Okay...I'll check the Providence media now.
 

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Okay...I can't find any news about accidents or crimes involving any 25 year old women. So, if something is wrong no one has figured it out yet. Do you know where she works?
 

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OK KIDS CALM DOWN lol

i am sure she has parents and family and friends and work collegues to make sure she is ok

and call the FBI if she isn't

concern is normal

nation wide search cause she went clubbing and cell phone is flat / stolen / lost etc

are we stalking her ?

STALK CHECK

how we doing ?
 

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Originally posted by Lost In Translation

STALK CHECK
LMAO. The only search I was gonna do is try to get the number to the restaraunt she works at. Think thats a bad idea?

My ONLY concern is the well-being thing.

I guess I will just let it go and assume she's all set to go.
 

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Originally posted by Lost In Translation
OK KIDS CALM DOWN lol

i am sure she has parents and family and friends and work collegues to make sure she is ok

and call the FBI if she isn't

concern is normal

nation wide search cause she went clubbing and cell phone is flat / stolen / lost etc

are we stalking her ?

STALK CHECK

how we doing ?
Don't blame him LIT...I just offered to check online news sources to see if there were any accidents or missing women that fit her age. I'm good at finding info like that. I was bored and wanted something to do. He's not overreacting.
 

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Originally posted by BigMike
LMAO. The only search I was gonna do is try to get the number to the restaraunt she works at. Think thats a bad idea?

My ONLY concern is the well-being thing.

I guess I will just let it go and assume she's all set to go.
There's nothing wrong with doing that. At 25 you never know if she's having frequent contact with her family. If your gut tells you that she would have called you if she could have, then calling her work to make sure she's okay or to make sure she showed up the next day is not going overboard. If it's a call you'd make if it was your neighbor, classmate, friend, etc...then make it for the girl. If you only want to make the call because you want her to talk to you, then don't make it. If you are genuinely concerned about her then make the call.
 

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The only search I was gonna do is try to get the number to the restaraunt she works at. Think thats a bad idea?

lets play it out

she is fine and her phone battery went flat

she never gave you her work number

you ring her work saying you checking she is ok

You are " checking up on her "

WHAT GOES THROUGH HER MIND

1. he is saying he cares but he is just using that as his excuse to check up on me / stalk me / hold me mummy i am scared lol

2. what the f*ck is this guy doing ringing me at work when i never gave him this number ?


give no.2 a STALK CHECK
 

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Originally posted by Lost In Translation
BigMike
The only search I was gonna do is try to get the number to the restaraunt she works at. Think thats a bad idea?

lets play it out

she is fine and her phone battery went flat

she never gave you her work number

you ring her work saying you checking she is ok

You are " checking up on her "

WHAT GOES THROUGH HER MIND

1. he is saying he cares but he is just using that as his excuse to check up on me / stalk me / hold me mummy i am scared lol

2. what the f*ck is this guy doing ringing me at work when i never gave him this number ?


give no.2 a STALK CHECK
This girl constantly asks me to come see her at work. She is sort of shy with me and would NEVER offer her work number.

I dont want to call to talk to her. Just to know that she didnt have a liquor involved accident that night just after talking to me.

There is no stalker in me. LMAO

I'm not going to end up calling, just because it isnt very "me" to call somewhere I didnt get the number to.
 

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Wyldfire i agree with him making sure she is ok IN THEORY

but if she is fine

and the ODDS are that she is

how is he going to come across to a girl he hopes to bust moves on ?


Wyldfire you are applying logic and commonsense

the chick will apply emotion


will the chick perceive his logical and commonsense approach to making sure she is still alive and breating as good ?

NO
 

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Well, I think it's okay for him to just go ahead and call and JUST make sure she's okay. If she IS okay he should next her anyway because it was horribly inconsiderate for her to leave him worrying like that. He should ONLY call one time, though...and only to make sure she is okay. If she's even at work he shouldn't chat or make small talk, just say he wanted to make sure she wasn't over a ledge somewhere. There is actually a serial killer who was never caught in the New Bedford area. The killings were quite awhile ago, but there have been a few young women who have disappeared more recently and haven't been found. I was aware of that when I offered to check the news for her area.
 

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