Advice needed

[Walking Anomaly]

Give me Some Adice Please

Hey guys

Here goes. Girl im involved with but not official (she wants to be), calls me. Im busy and such, and dont answer. Next day she IM's me angry cause i had gone there to surprise her without her father knowing, only her mother. Anyway, he got mad and took it out on her. In addition to her being angry about that, her friend had also gotten into a car accident last night. Now for some reason shes taking it out on me, saying i dont care because i didnt answer her call and that i dont care that she got in trouble for me showing up there.

What should i do? She said to call her later if i want because now shes busy, taking care of her friend in the accident.

Im not sure if i should call her to try and talk tonight because it might seem AFCish.

Or should i let her cool off for a day, and not call tonight.

Im really not in favor of ending the relationship, but will if i really have to.

Much appreciated
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Peace

 

[NRM]

DON'T DO ANYTHING.

If you know it's not your fault. Don't take the blame. Her reasoning is unjust and you shouldn't call her back just because she tells you to. Just DON'T DO ANYTHING.

When she does eventually come around, if she's still bitching at you, tell her you don't appreciate her acting this way towards you and that you aren't going to put up with it.

Don't let her be a brat just because she doesn't get what she wants. It's a bad way to start a relationship, it's a bad way to go through one.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

So i should wait until she calls back herself again?

Even if she calls back tonight?

I was thinkin if lettin her cool off a day or 2.

But also, it IS partly my fault about the part of me coming there.

And i never actually said the words "im sorry" or apologized in any way.

Closest thing i said to that effect was, "i made an assumption and i was wrong."

that sound like an apology? if so than sh*t haha

Let me know

 

[NRM]

If she calls you back fine, but if she's going to give you an additude for something that she really shouldn't blame you for, tell her that you won't take her nonsense anymore.

Just think about this. She does something wrong that gets you in trouble, but she HONESTLY had no idea that it would. Would you really get all that upset at her? I wouldn't get upset at my girlfriend if she made a mistake like that and I would DEFINITELY not blow it out of proportion.

If she calls you to talk, talk, but don't let her be a brat about it, you have better things to do than hear her whine and moan.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

I see. Thanks man

And i even said to her about me surprising her, " i try to do something nice for once and this is the appreciation i get ?"

Anything in particular i should say or do? or jus roll with it?

and anyone else have advice?

Much Appreciated.

 

[Porky]

She's angry because you aren't official with her yet. She's stressed because her friend got hurt last night. It's just coming together and you need to let her know that you didn't do anything wrong. Listen to NRM.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

I see.... thank you guys

I mean you're right. If we arent official why is she stressing over me not answering her call yesterday? It had only been one day since i had SEEN her, not only talked, but SEEN her.

So i'll just wait until she calls. And if she doesn't? then what, next?

Plus, if i dont call, wont that kind of confirm that i dont care? or could it send the message that i dont want to talk becuause i wont take the way she talked to me, cause she said to call if i want to talk.

We'll see how it turns out.

Anyone else?

Much appreciated

 

[Walking Anomaly]

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