Ok there is this chick at the gym where i go to that i approached. I just approached her and told her that she was pretty and i would like to get to know her. She was so astonished that i could say that, that she almost choked on the water she just sipped as i spoke to her. Afterwards i told introduced myself and asked for hers. I then told her that i'll like to get to know her cuz she really is attractive. She smiled again and then she said she couldn't believe this was happening. Anyway to cut the story short, i got her digits and all and i call her the next day and a female picks up the fone trying to voice a guy's and calling himself her boyfriend. I knew without a doubt that this wasn't a guy and that was NOT her boyfriend because her reaction when i approached her did not show she had a boyfriend besides i know a guys voice. I really dont know what to do guys..please help..i feel its probably a case of her friends influencing her..
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Advice Needed..Please read and advice
- Thread starter sunkist
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
backseatjuan
Banned
She's not interested.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
You know how when your out on a date and you open a door for a girl? Nothing wrong with that, but if you do it all night and ANNOUNCE when you are doing it, you put EMPHASIS on that action and will come off kinda weird to the girl right?
Well that's sorta what you did in this approach.
You went direct, told her you thought she was pretty; nothing wrong with that, but you didn't have anything else to support that opener with that showcased your personality to create and elevate HER interest in you.
Instead you just repeated that you thought she was really pretty and again while flattering to a girl, its not going to get you anywhere.
Even though direct game works well, I like to use situational openers (open by talking about something going on around both of us) and then go from there.
The real key to getting women regardless of what style of game you use is to frame it in such a way that they see the value in you and are intrigued to want to learn more.
You set this up the opposite way; you gave her all the power and are acting like it would be a privilege for you to hang out with her.
And yes she's not interested so move on.
PIMP
Well that's sorta what you did in this approach.
You went direct, told her you thought she was pretty; nothing wrong with that, but you didn't have anything else to support that opener with that showcased your personality to create and elevate HER interest in you.
Instead you just repeated that you thought she was really pretty and again while flattering to a girl, its not going to get you anywhere.
Even though direct game works well, I like to use situational openers (open by talking about something going on around both of us) and then go from there.
The real key to getting women regardless of what style of game you use is to frame it in such a way that they see the value in you and are intrigued to want to learn more.
You set this up the opposite way; you gave her all the power and are acting like it would be a privilege for you to hang out with her.
And yes she's not interested so move on.
PIMP