Ok there is this chick at the gym where i go to that i approached. I just approached her and told her that she was pretty and i would like to get to know her. She was so astonished that i could say that, that she almost choked on the water she just sipped as i spoke to her. Afterwards i told introduced myself and asked for hers. I then told her that i'll like to get to know her cuz she really is attractive. She smiled again and then she said she couldn't believe this was happening. Anyway to cut the story short, i got her digits and all and i call her the next day and a female picks up the fone trying to voice a guy's and calling himself her boyfriend. I knew without a doubt that this wasn't a guy and that was NOT her boyfriend because her reaction when i approached her did not show she had a boyfriend besides i know a guys voice. I really dont know what to do guys..please help..i feel its probably a case of her friends influencing her..
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Advice Needed..Please read and advice
- Thread starter sunkist
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
backseatjuan
Banned
She's not interested.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
You know how when your out on a date and you open a door for a girl? Nothing wrong with that, but if you do it all night and ANNOUNCE when you are doing it, you put EMPHASIS on that action and will come off kinda weird to the girl right?
Well that's sorta what you did in this approach.
You went direct, told her you thought she was pretty; nothing wrong with that, but you didn't have anything else to support that opener with that showcased your personality to create and elevate HER interest in you.
Instead you just repeated that you thought she was really pretty and again while flattering to a girl, its not going to get you anywhere.
Even though direct game works well, I like to use situational openers (open by talking about something going on around both of us) and then go from there.
The real key to getting women regardless of what style of game you use is to frame it in such a way that they see the value in you and are intrigued to want to learn more.
You set this up the opposite way; you gave her all the power and are acting like it would be a privilege for you to hang out with her.
And yes she's not interested so move on.
PIMP
Well that's sorta what you did in this approach.
You went direct, told her you thought she was pretty; nothing wrong with that, but you didn't have anything else to support that opener with that showcased your personality to create and elevate HER interest in you.
Instead you just repeated that you thought she was really pretty and again while flattering to a girl, its not going to get you anywhere.
Even though direct game works well, I like to use situational openers (open by talking about something going on around both of us) and then go from there.
The real key to getting women regardless of what style of game you use is to frame it in such a way that they see the value in you and are intrigued to want to learn more.
You set this up the opposite way; you gave her all the power and are acting like it would be a privilege for you to hang out with her.
And yes she's not interested so move on.
PIMP