"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Advice? Moving To A New City

thederekeffect1

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I need advice. I just moved to a new city today. I really had no choice. It was move here or end up homeless. Well, 1) I've lived in a good sized city most of my life where everything is just there for you. This city is small... It's like a 10 mile drive to the city. 2) I know nothing about moving to a new city. I know nobody and I'm not the country boy type.

anyone want to share advice on moving to a new city?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I guess it depends what the city is.

I moved to Arizona and it is the center of hell itself.
 

Magma

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When you get there, find one of the local free arts/entertainment publications and give it a peruse. It will give you a good idea of what types of clubs/events go down there, and you can develop a sense of what things are going to be like. That's what I do whevever I travel to a new city, and it seems to help. Good luck in your new city brother.

Just for clarification, how small are we talking? 100,000?
 

Joe The Homophobe

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I recently moved to a new city as well. It was tough leaving the place you lived most of your life but the sense of adventure and being a stranger is something i like. I can work on my game and not worry about being watched due to being known or having people hear of things I did. Less social repercussions for behavior.

Use this move to a new city to work on your game. You got nothing to lose. If you get embarrased, who will know when nobody knows you? no worries about people hearing things about you, you can do what you want. Being a stranger in a new town ain't a bad thing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Magma

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Joe The Homophobe said:
I recently moved to a new city as well. It was tough leaving the place you lived most of your life but the sense of adventure and being a stranger is something i like. I can work on my game and not worry about being watched due to being known or having people hear of things I did. Less social repercussions for behavior.

Use this move to a new city to work on your game. You got nothing to lose. If you get embarrased, who will know when nobody knows you? being a stranger in a new town ain't a bad thing.
The Phobe brings up a good point. We used to play "Not Our Town" back in college. We'd get shytty drunk and make arses out of ourselves when visiting a new city, because it wasn't our town and we had no reprecussions socially.

In all seriousness, your starting with a clean slate and this is a good thing. Sarge some guys along with the women and make some friends. Have fun and relax. You'll be cool.
 
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