"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Advice? Moving To A New City

thederekeffect1

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I need advice. I just moved to a new city today. I really had no choice. It was move here or end up homeless. Well, 1) I've lived in a good sized city most of my life where everything is just there for you. This city is small... It's like a 10 mile drive to the city. 2) I know nothing about moving to a new city. I know nobody and I'm not the country boy type.

anyone want to share advice on moving to a new city?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I guess it depends what the city is.

I moved to Arizona and it is the center of hell itself.
 

Magma

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When you get there, find one of the local free arts/entertainment publications and give it a peruse. It will give you a good idea of what types of clubs/events go down there, and you can develop a sense of what things are going to be like. That's what I do whevever I travel to a new city, and it seems to help. Good luck in your new city brother.

Just for clarification, how small are we talking? 100,000?
 

Joe The Homophobe

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I recently moved to a new city as well. It was tough leaving the place you lived most of your life but the sense of adventure and being a stranger is something i like. I can work on my game and not worry about being watched due to being known or having people hear of things I did. Less social repercussions for behavior.

Use this move to a new city to work on your game. You got nothing to lose. If you get embarrased, who will know when nobody knows you? no worries about people hearing things about you, you can do what you want. Being a stranger in a new town ain't a bad thing.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Joe The Homophobe said:
I recently moved to a new city as well. It was tough leaving the place you lived most of your life but the sense of adventure and being a stranger is something i like. I can work on my game and not worry about being watched due to being known or having people hear of things I did. Less social repercussions for behavior.

Use this move to a new city to work on your game. You got nothing to lose. If you get embarrased, who will know when nobody knows you? being a stranger in a new town ain't a bad thing.
The Phobe brings up a good point. We used to play "Not Our Town" back in college. We'd get shytty drunk and make arses out of ourselves when visiting a new city, because it wasn't our town and we had no reprecussions socially.

In all seriousness, your starting with a clean slate and this is a good thing. Sarge some guys along with the women and make some friends. Have fun and relax. You'll be cool.
 
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