"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Advice? Moving To A New City

thederekeffect1

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I need advice. I just moved to a new city today. I really had no choice. It was move here or end up homeless. Well, 1) I've lived in a good sized city most of my life where everything is just there for you. This city is small... It's like a 10 mile drive to the city. 2) I know nothing about moving to a new city. I know nobody and I'm not the country boy type.

anyone want to share advice on moving to a new city?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I guess it depends what the city is.

I moved to Arizona and it is the center of hell itself.
 

Magma

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When you get there, find one of the local free arts/entertainment publications and give it a peruse. It will give you a good idea of what types of clubs/events go down there, and you can develop a sense of what things are going to be like. That's what I do whevever I travel to a new city, and it seems to help. Good luck in your new city brother.

Just for clarification, how small are we talking? 100,000?
 

Joe The Homophobe

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I recently moved to a new city as well. It was tough leaving the place you lived most of your life but the sense of adventure and being a stranger is something i like. I can work on my game and not worry about being watched due to being known or having people hear of things I did. Less social repercussions for behavior.

Use this move to a new city to work on your game. You got nothing to lose. If you get embarrased, who will know when nobody knows you? no worries about people hearing things about you, you can do what you want. Being a stranger in a new town ain't a bad thing.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Joe The Homophobe said:
I recently moved to a new city as well. It was tough leaving the place you lived most of your life but the sense of adventure and being a stranger is something i like. I can work on my game and not worry about being watched due to being known or having people hear of things I did. Less social repercussions for behavior.

Use this move to a new city to work on your game. You got nothing to lose. If you get embarrased, who will know when nobody knows you? being a stranger in a new town ain't a bad thing.
The Phobe brings up a good point. We used to play "Not Our Town" back in college. We'd get shytty drunk and make arses out of ourselves when visiting a new city, because it wasn't our town and we had no reprecussions socially.

In all seriousness, your starting with a clean slate and this is a good thing. Sarge some guys along with the women and make some friends. Have fun and relax. You'll be cool.
 
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