Hey guys. Got a date coming up and I thought it couldn't hurt to get some outside perspective.
The girl is 22, of Asian descent (I'm 35 as of a few days ago, and white), smoking hot in my eyes, well educated and going to start her PhD in the fall. She's a lot more mature than most girls I've dated who are quite a bit older, but she's still 22 and I'm not going to lie to myself about that. I get the impression that her parents do VERY well, but she doesn't act like a spoiled brat. She's leaving town in September, so I'm not thinking this needs to be long term, but I do enjoy her company and wouldn't mind having her around for the summer.
Met her at a club about a month ago and got her number, despite her being the hottest girl there and nearly every dude pawing at her. Ended up going out with her a few days later. We went to a bar and had a good time, got along really well. We have a very similar sense of humor and so banter was natural. Went back to my place, made out for a while, but chilled out eventually and I took her home. Big kiss before I let her go.
I was leaving for a road trip of the US a week later, so a few days after the date I texted her "Well I'm leaving for my trip in a bit so I have to break dating protocol and say let's meet up Friday before I go." (she knew I was being playful about the "dating protocol" thing). So she responds "Aw, poor you having to see me before you go. Yeah Friday will be good!".
We chatted in the next few days via text and made plans. We were gonna go for a ride on my motorbike and she was acting stoked. Unfortunately, the day of the date, she had to cancel because of some drama in her life that I can confirm was 90% likely legit. She called me that night and said she was disappointed we didn't get to meet but did want to meet up when I got back, and said I should download Snapchat so we can stay in touch while I was gone.
During my trip we snapped a lot, almost every day, lots of friendly conversations and flirting. At one point she indicated sexual interest with a joke, and at another point she called me a unicorn, saying something like "Wow, have I actually found a dapper, smart guy who can do [can't remember what]??"
At one point after a joke I made, she even said something about how she once dated a guy who was dating another girl with the same name as her and hoped I wouldn't do the same. So, a bit of interest in exclusivity, though out of context. When I got back we made plans to meet up the next week. She often took a while to text back but I kept my text to a minimum unless we were having a good back and forth conversation at night.
Anyway, the second date went well, went for a ride on the bike, she clung to me like a backback, went back to my place and watched the first 30 minutes of a movie and then made out, then had sex. The sex was decent, though not my best performance, because at one point I kinked my **** fvcking her quite hard and lost my boner for a bit, so we went out for a smoke and chatted, then went back inside and we finished having sex before I had to take her home because she had an exam in the morning. In any case I wanted to get a chance to bang her again because I find that sex is always way better the second or third time, if you're starting to date someone.
We texted in the next few days, a few joking, sexy texts. After a few days though she started texting less and less and I hadn't heard from her for a couple days when I decided to just chill for a bit and go no contact till she took the initiative, but then I ran into her at the beach when I was going down to see some friends. She was with another dude but I think they're just friends because I'd seen him in public snaps since way back and she didn't act at all guilty or awkward. She acted really happy to see me and gave me a big hug. I told her I was gonna find my friends and then come back and say hi. I did, we had a smoke, and I said feel free to stop by and say hi to my crew. She didn't end up doing that but texted me as they were leaving and I said "ok let's hook up for something casual". She said "yeah sounds good" and that was that.
After a couple days of little texting, I thought it'd be a good idea to just bang someone else to get my mind off of her. And, as though the universe was telling me I did the right thing, she texted me that evening asking how I was going, etc (also, so did another girl I had messaged on facebook the day before and whom I wasn't sure was going to write back). I had my birthday a few days later and she texted to say hi, so I said feel free to stop by but she didn't. No biggie as I didn't even know if she was free and I get not wanting to go to a casual date's Bday and meeting 25 of his friends.
OK! So I asked when she was free today and she said Sunday. Easy.
Sorry for the long winded rant but I just wanted to give some context. So on the one hand, I feel like I've shown too much interest, and that it's been hard to get her to show any initiative or invest at all. But on the other hand, I've never done anything really needy except reply to texts sooner, she's never turned down a date, we've slept together, and when we're together there's very good physical chemistry. I think I'm just reading way too much into it when she disappears for a few days because we often text so much, and she's just wondering why I'm not asking her out more often... Any advice on how I should handle myself on the date, and moving forward? I know I said she's going away but again, I'd like to have a fun little thing for the summer. Should I just start treating her like a FB?
Thanks, all!
The girl is 22, of Asian descent (I'm 35 as of a few days ago, and white), smoking hot in my eyes, well educated and going to start her PhD in the fall. She's a lot more mature than most girls I've dated who are quite a bit older, but she's still 22 and I'm not going to lie to myself about that. I get the impression that her parents do VERY well, but she doesn't act like a spoiled brat. She's leaving town in September, so I'm not thinking this needs to be long term, but I do enjoy her company and wouldn't mind having her around for the summer.
Met her at a club about a month ago and got her number, despite her being the hottest girl there and nearly every dude pawing at her. Ended up going out with her a few days later. We went to a bar and had a good time, got along really well. We have a very similar sense of humor and so banter was natural. Went back to my place, made out for a while, but chilled out eventually and I took her home. Big kiss before I let her go.
I was leaving for a road trip of the US a week later, so a few days after the date I texted her "Well I'm leaving for my trip in a bit so I have to break dating protocol and say let's meet up Friday before I go." (she knew I was being playful about the "dating protocol" thing). So she responds "Aw, poor you having to see me before you go. Yeah Friday will be good!".
We chatted in the next few days via text and made plans. We were gonna go for a ride on my motorbike and she was acting stoked. Unfortunately, the day of the date, she had to cancel because of some drama in her life that I can confirm was 90% likely legit. She called me that night and said she was disappointed we didn't get to meet but did want to meet up when I got back, and said I should download Snapchat so we can stay in touch while I was gone.
During my trip we snapped a lot, almost every day, lots of friendly conversations and flirting. At one point she indicated sexual interest with a joke, and at another point she called me a unicorn, saying something like "Wow, have I actually found a dapper, smart guy who can do [can't remember what]??"
At one point after a joke I made, she even said something about how she once dated a guy who was dating another girl with the same name as her and hoped I wouldn't do the same. So, a bit of interest in exclusivity, though out of context. When I got back we made plans to meet up the next week. She often took a while to text back but I kept my text to a minimum unless we were having a good back and forth conversation at night.
Anyway, the second date went well, went for a ride on the bike, she clung to me like a backback, went back to my place and watched the first 30 minutes of a movie and then made out, then had sex. The sex was decent, though not my best performance, because at one point I kinked my **** fvcking her quite hard and lost my boner for a bit, so we went out for a smoke and chatted, then went back inside and we finished having sex before I had to take her home because she had an exam in the morning. In any case I wanted to get a chance to bang her again because I find that sex is always way better the second or third time, if you're starting to date someone.
We texted in the next few days, a few joking, sexy texts. After a few days though she started texting less and less and I hadn't heard from her for a couple days when I decided to just chill for a bit and go no contact till she took the initiative, but then I ran into her at the beach when I was going down to see some friends. She was with another dude but I think they're just friends because I'd seen him in public snaps since way back and she didn't act at all guilty or awkward. She acted really happy to see me and gave me a big hug. I told her I was gonna find my friends and then come back and say hi. I did, we had a smoke, and I said feel free to stop by and say hi to my crew. She didn't end up doing that but texted me as they were leaving and I said "ok let's hook up for something casual". She said "yeah sounds good" and that was that.
After a couple days of little texting, I thought it'd be a good idea to just bang someone else to get my mind off of her. And, as though the universe was telling me I did the right thing, she texted me that evening asking how I was going, etc (also, so did another girl I had messaged on facebook the day before and whom I wasn't sure was going to write back). I had my birthday a few days later and she texted to say hi, so I said feel free to stop by but she didn't. No biggie as I didn't even know if she was free and I get not wanting to go to a casual date's Bday and meeting 25 of his friends.
OK! So I asked when she was free today and she said Sunday. Easy.
Sorry for the long winded rant but I just wanted to give some context. So on the one hand, I feel like I've shown too much interest, and that it's been hard to get her to show any initiative or invest at all. But on the other hand, I've never done anything really needy except reply to texts sooner, she's never turned down a date, we've slept together, and when we're together there's very good physical chemistry. I think I'm just reading way too much into it when she disappears for a few days because we often text so much, and she's just wondering why I'm not asking her out more often... Any advice on how I should handle myself on the date, and moving forward? I know I said she's going away but again, I'd like to have a fun little thing for the summer. Should I just start treating her like a FB?
Thanks, all!
