"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Advice for a fat guy - when to start approaching after losing weight?

Narhwal

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Hi,

I'm a fat guy - but I've lost 70 pounds in the past 6 months and am down to 220 from 290 (6'0" tall).

Is it too early for me to start trying to develop game and approach women? I think I could lose at least 40 more pounds if I really kept with my program.

I haven't had sex in 5 years except once with a prostitute 2 years ago (in a foreign country so it was kind of a unique situation) and I feel like I'm wasting my life away.

I don't think I have the personality to ever be a player, I just want to find a wife and start a family since I'm 30. My issue is that if I waited maybe the quality of woman I could attract would increase significantly? I would expect to be shot down 99% of the time if I tried right now.

Thanks in advance on your decision - wait or start now?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jitterbug

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Approaching will burn some more calories and possibly raise testosterone which will help you with further fat loss.
 

Partizan

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Quick test. If you can look down and see your ****, it's safe to start approaching.
 

Atom Smasher

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My advice would be to just get into conversational practice with women (and men, too) in your day-to-day, without any outcome-dependence whatsoever.

When you sharpen a knife against a stone, you expect nothing but a sharpened knife. Later the knife will do its cutting having been honed with precision.
 

Kailex

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The better question is: Why would you wait?

Being 230 didn't stop me, even before I was considering slimming down to 156.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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