"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Advice: don't be a frustrated a$$hole, like me

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Noob ur also correct, with the exception of: man, whats with this "friend" bull****? I have a d!ck. If I wanted another friend id rather talk to a fat girl, or a guy. Duhhh.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DJVladdy said:
Yea I realized it ur right.
I greatly appreciate your medical consultation, nobody, but I'll pass, thank you.

And obviously I wont get a reply from her. When i cut someone out of my life, i actually mean it. Not like you.

Ok buddy, but on a serious note... I have had girls do the exact same thing to me. I say "HI" on MSN, and they ignore me and logoff. Sure I didn't like it, but punching walls and throwing chairs and almost "killing" somebody? Not normal.

you said you asked your neighboor for drugs. You said it first not me.

See a shrink, tell them this story. Don't feel bad, I need to see one too.
 

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Again, I'm not going to drug myself (any further), and I'm not going to any psychotherapists, period. Besides I'm all out of amphetamines, til like a month from now. Which is a good thing, because I dont want to get too used to them and addicted.

I kind of hope Interceptor sees this, out of all people.
 
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Again, I'm not going to drug myself (any further), and I'm not going to any psychotherapists, period. Besides I'm all out of amphetamines, til like a month from now. Which is a good thing, because I dont want to get too used to them and addicted.

I kind of hope Interceptor sees this, out of all people.

AMPHETAMINES? Holy crap, no wonder you are psycho with a bad temper.

Vladdy on AMPHETAMINES or even worse out of amps... withdrawl is a b!tch.

What is it Adderall? Ritalin? lol...Maybe you can find some coke on the streetcorner.
 

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I see, when exactly did you cut her out of your life... When punching the walls or throwing the chairs?

LMAO....seriously, he is talking about cutting someone out of his life who logged off of MSN too soon. DJvlady or whatever your name is..even if you get into any kind of relationship how in the hell will you maintain it with a state of mind like that??? Serious question.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Adderall. - ritalin doesnt make me feel good on the inside - ive tried.

Zinc, u see, if the bytch was at least giving me some bl0wjobs, let her not respond to me, thats fine, she'll suck my d!ck next time - no big deal. Fulfill my needs, THEN play games with me. If not - get the fvck out of my face, say you got a boyfriend and i'll wish you all the best with him live happily ever after.
 
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Adderall. - ritalin doesnt make me feel good on the inside - ive tried.

Zinc, u see, if the bytch was at least giving me some bl0wjobs, let her not respond to me, thats fine, she'll suck my d!ck next time - no big deal. Fulfill my needs, THEN play games with me. If not - get the fvck out of my face, say you got a boyfriend and i'll wish you all the best with him live happily ever after.

Adderall I should have known.. go ahead try and tell me you are taking it "as prescribed"... the reason you are out is because you ate the whole bottle in 3 days. GET OFF THAT JUNK. You will never be real when taking it and these episodes will repeat themselves.
 

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Lol you're smart. Except not 3, more like 6 - but you get the idea.
 
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Lol you're smart. Except not 3, more like 6 - but you get the idea.
Yeah man, a month is a ***** to wait. How are you going to fill the time??
 

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Its GOOD that I dont have anymore, its better without them cuz i turn into a zombie. It's not like i REALLY have ADD or anything, just take them to kind of escape reality thats it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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i have found that women just do that kind of thing, there really is no rhyme or reason. you basically have to deal with it while sticking with your guns and not putting up with too much sh1t.

i took a girl out recently over break who had just gotten over an LTR. we went out and had a nice time and she even showed some IOIs. i noticed she changed her profile from sad lyrics about missing her ex to an inspirtational quote about just being happy in life.

i got kinda amped over this and left her an IM a few days later telling her liked the quote. no response whatsoever.

i felt really down, especially since this was my first attempt to contact her after the date. but i didn't flip out, lose my cool or say anything harsh to her. i just didn't let it affect me that much.

i texted her like two weeks later, basically a shot in the dark to see if she would be anymore responsive or if she even cared to hear from me. i thought she would based on the date, but she ignored my IMs before, so i had no idea. anyway, she responded to the texts right away and kept responding until i cut it off.

the lesson i learned is ILs often flucuiate and IOIs / IODs can easily be misintepretated. there is no need to jump to conclusions or overreact over one small thing.
 

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Those extreme aggressions, learn to use them for your benefit.
Never shut it out, but rather give in to your anger and harness your rage to do something constructive(e.g. body building). It will keep you in balance.

(and also provide great motivation for fitness :D)
 

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dude...NEVER LET A ***** RUIN YOUR DAY AND YOUR OUTLOOK ON THINGS!! you are a MAN! don't let some b1tch make you angry like that. When she logged off, you shouldnt have talked to her again..texting her made you look needy and desperate..there are SOOO many b1tches out there, and you're pissed over some dumb cun-t?

then women have the nerve to be pissed at players..it's sh1t like this, and women flaking that make men game multiple women at the same time..fukcin cun-ts
 

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hah, at first I didn't really understand what LMS was getting at, but he's right. You really shouldn't drive yourself into an early grave over some chick.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Vlad, when we act this way it is because we did NOT GET what we were EXPECTING.

What were you EXPECTING from her?

Sex? Intimacy? COmpanionship? An LTR? FB status?

Moreover, if you were expecting any of these things...what ACTIONS were you taking to try to make this circumstance happen for you?

Women only LJBF guys who cannot escalate and are not sexual from the Beginning, you know that, Vlad.

Second, when it comes to women rejecting us...the harder we take i///t.the MORE we must realize that it is the LACK of VALIDATION we are getting from this woman.

Many guys see it as Women REJECTING their Manhood, their Masculinity.
SInce they hang so much MEANING and IMPORTANCE on what this woman thinks of them, they get truly deeply offended when this undeservedly "powerful" woman makes a Judgenment Call on YOU.


In other words, you are still seeking APPROVAL and VALIDATION from this chick, whom, yeah, she was cool to you...but definitely not Interested in you.
You propbably did see the red flags and signs ..but you probably DID NOT want to ACKNOWLEDGE them.
Because if you did, you would let your self be hurt, your EGO would be hurt, Vlad. She would damage your Self Image, whatever it may be.

GUY: "I am the ultimate Player! No chick rejects me!"

WOMAN: "Hey, look you're a nice guy. Let''s just be friends ok?"

GUY: "B*tch! I hate you! How dare you??!"

Vlad, you know about Personal Boundaries, right?
And the VALUE of your INNER RESOURCES, correct?


You also know that people should respect yours, and you should respect theirs
If people dont' resepct your inner Resources,you have your Personal Boundary to protect you. And you know, it is off limits to them....

...........JUST LIKE THEIR RESOURCES ARE OFF LIMITS TO YOU.

Why?
Because you have NO say in their decisions.

Think about this.

Anything they GIVE you is a GIFT.

And if the dont give you anything, do not hate them for it.

People will DO what THEY want to do, regardless of YOU.

Many womne simply want to hang out wiht guys.
Just because a chick hangs out with a guy DOES NOT Mean she wants to get married to him and have his baby and be his sex slave.


When we OVER RE ACT it is clearly a sign of not understanding persepctive and Value.
WE do not have a strong Personal Boundary.
Why?

Because our EMOTIONS, our INNER RESOURCES go HAYWIRE at the Whims of others when we do NOT,
WE lose control and some stranger COMES INSIDE and INFRINGES on our PEACE of MIND and OUR Emotional Well Being. Because we coudln't control them.We couidn't in that situation control our Personal Boundary.


And we should know that we can't control others.
We then have trouble Sayiong "NO" and ave trouble HEARING "NO" to US.
All becaseu we are not effective at using our Personal Boundary.


And we have to ask ourselves, "What am I truly entitled to here?"



We often place too much MEANING and IMPRTNCE on others OPINIONS about us.
We often feel good only when we enegage in activities and actions that INFLATE our EGO.
These are both wrong.
 
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Thx for replying.
You said "cool to you but not interested in you", how was i supposed to know if she was/not interested in me? I'm no magician, i can't read minds. What am I supposed to do? - say to myself from day 1 I saw her "oh this girl is cute and maybe she will be cool to me and we'll talk, but she is definitely not interested".
 

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If every guy who ain't Brad Pitt assumes no girl is interested in him, and at best want to be just friends - human race would be in big danger.
 

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Do not confuse ATTRACTION with INTEREST.

This is your hard lesson, Vlad.
Welcome to the world of Women, Vladdy boy.

EDIT: And you are starting to misinterpret meanings here.
Do not start projecting your insecurites and go on a self defeating, limiting belief kick here, Vlad.
"Life "was NEVER EVER EVER SUPPOSED to LIVE UP TO YOUR "EXPECTATIONS".
You were 'taught" wrong, OK?!
You were taught wrong.

"Life" doesn't "owe" you sh*t.

THIS is WHY it is so important to BE STRONG and INDEPENDENT.

Vlad, buddy........sorry to break it to ya,,,,, but this IS the "real masculine man's REALITY" .

That's it right there.


YOU are supposed to live up to YOUR OWN Expectations, NOT OTHERS.

We create our own reality.



Go back and re read what I am talking about.

And realize, once and for all, if you had good motivating, compelling life, you woudlnt ne giving this stuff more than a minutes thought.
you are putting too muchimportance onothers.

How did THAt work our for you?

I am saying yiou can avoid this if you put youself outside of the mercy and whims of others, be neutral.
Not needy.


I see what youre doing, you don't fool me.

Get your head on straight.

NOW.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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