"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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advice column: I’m a Conservative Woman Who Doesn’t Believe in Casual Sex - I’m horny constantly.

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I am a single conservative woman in her 30s. I became a widow at the age of 30, and since then have only been involved with one other man. I firmly believe that sexual relations should occur only within the bonds of a committed relationship. However, I literally spend hours each day thinking about sex. Can a celibate person have a sex addiction?

—Randy Sandy
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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In order to be addicted to something, you actually need to be doing it. I’m not addicted to cigarettes if I only think about them all day but don’t actually smoke. Also, an addiction has to have a negative consequence. You can have lots of sex if it is safe and you are honest and open about it. It become an addiction when you are raw dogging dudes on the side while in a committed relationship.
 
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She needs to have sex. My sense is that she's overly fussy in her mate selection. Her first husband was likely some alpha solider in some branch of the armed forces. She's comparing every guy she meets to him and guys are falling short of her expectations.

There's nothing wrong with only wanting sex within a committed relationship. It does reduce partner count and prevents carousel riding. There's a happy medium though.
 
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So, just as with guys, a woman going too long without sexual release leads to becoming uncontrollably horny. What a surprise!

Only within a committed relationship, pfffff. Such human bullsh!t. The chimpanzee which is our closest relative sharing 99% of our DNA are promiscuous as fvck, they all try to fvck as many as they can. They don't give a fvck about commitment. Humans also technically being apes means we are driven by pretty much the same instincts, we have just added a lot of extra steps to the process.

She's fighting nature.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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more to this story for sure.
lots of guys want to have sex and will try an LTR to get it, especially if the girl is sexy looking and or acting.

she does not want a relationship apparently.., (no guy that excites her is available)
she does want sex, (yes..)
she does not want sex without a relationship. (that anyone knows about)

this is female logic for sure. I wonder what will she do??
 
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The thing with women that separates them out from us is most of them have the abundance mindset so quite a few of them choose their vibrators to satisfy them and are perfectly fine with that until they are either ready for a relationship or the right guy comes along before giving it up. I've talked to quite a few women that's been using their vibrators for years. Guys cannot do this, at least not by choice.

Abundance = Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Just because a gal can get laid anytime doesn't mean she should.

It's like giving a kid a big bowl of candy and leaving them alone. Abundance mentality and self regulation will allow those kids that have that to only take a couple while the kids that don't possess those traits will gobble up the whole bowl of candy.
 
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Lookatu said:
The thing with women that separates them out from us is most of them have the abundance mindset so quite a few of them choose their vibrators to satisfy them and are perfectly fine with that until they are either ready for a relationship or the right guy comes along before giving it up. I've talked to quite a few women that's been using their vibrators for years. Guys cannot do this, at least not by choice.

Abundance = Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Just because a gal can get laid anytime doesn't mean she should.

It's like giving a kid a big bowl of candy and leaving them alone. Abundance mentality and self regulation will allow those kids that have that to only take a couple while the kids that don't possess those traits will gobble up the whole bowl of candy.
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and that's why Men should make decisions and set boundaries in society, not women.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mrgoodstuff said:
Even a males will flatline or reduce. But it will come back alive if he or she gets bavk in the saddle and puts it to use.
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Females since they're not visual creatures like a guy can often institute that "out of sight, out of mind" type thought process and suppress their libido until she get's back into the saddle with the right guy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Serenity said:
So, just as with guys, a woman going too long without sexual release leads to becoming uncontrollably horny. What a surprise!

Only within a committed relationship, pfffff. Such human bullsh!t. The chimpanzee which is our closest relative sharing 99% of our DNA are promiscuous as fvck, they all try to fvck as many as they can. They don't give a fvck about commitment. Humans also technically being apes means we are driven by pretty much the same instincts, we have just added a lot of extra steps to the process.

She's fighting nature.
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Of course, us humans have the capacity to think about things; our chimp cousins don't think about anything.
 
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