Advice about girl from work with bf

[baraka]

Hi i just registered because this girl has my head spinning.

So there is this girl i work with. She is with this guy who was kind of my friend that used to work there(we where work friends). Ok dude got fired almost a year ago now and still has no job. They live together. Lately she complains about him a lot to me. How she pays for everything, we start talking a lot. I try to make good eye contact, smile a lot, and do all that. I think im doing good but its going slowly. I have taken her out to lunch 2 times now on break from work and i want to take her out for real. The last time at lunch i basically told her how i felt. I got not much of a response. I also told her i want to take her out for real and she said "we'll work on that" whats that suposed to mean. ack.

Any advice, tips to handling this. I get the feelings she is quite reserved and im going to have to make all the moves. Normally i dont have much trouble talking with ladies and stuff, but her having a man is throwing me off here. I get the feeling she might be weighing her options. Whats my next move, how long do i wait? Do i try and not seem to interested. I am talking to her now on AIM.

 

[DreamyChick]

Don't go there. It will just lead to trouble. Find a girl who is available. No more work lunch dates alone.

 

[nishbuk]

I don't have much experience with a situation like this, but I would call myself one of the best observasionalists.

Here's what I think about attached girls:

1) Women are plentiful, and it's a cruel enough world out there for the AFCs, that we should all take a solemn vow NEVER to help a girl cheat on a guy. As men, we should be protecting other men. Unless they are complete *******s.
Bros before hoes.

2) A girl that is dating someone is bad news. Why? Because it means that she is looking to you to fill some void that the other boyfriend left.
From the looks of it, you're telling me that she still hasn't broken up with her BF, yet she still comes to you to complain about her emotional baggage. What does that tell me?
She's getting all her needs taken care of by the both of you. She's still having sex with her BF, and at the same time, she can come to you to talk about all her emotional problems. You are both being played...That is unless YOU really do just think of her as a friend, which I can tell just from the fact that you are posting here, yo do not.

Bad idea man. If I were you I would start dating other chicks ASAP.

 

[Smooth Player 056]

Your AFC Scum

 

[baraka]

Sigh, not what i wanted to hear but yeah. I figure ill make one go for her and if it doesnt work out ill move on. I honestly could give to ****s up about the other guy, he only really hung out with me besides at work when he wanted to get high. Normally i dont really get worked up about girls but i guess im stuck on her for whatever reason. Ill quit being a *****.

There is a work party on sunday ill try somthing them. Damn i really am an *******. She just said to me if anything it would be her that would have to stop anything that would be cheating? I think she is ****ing with me.