Advantages and Disadvantages of Celibacy (waiting till marriage)

[Georgepithyou]

Advantages:
Highly subjective. I think generally, the advantages are:

- You know the person you are with is with you because they love you for who you are -- not because they want sex from you.
- You form relationships that are based entirely on how you feel about each other, and not hormones that are released during sex. (Some people say that these hormones are "important for bonding," but I know for a fact that you can bond perfectly well without them. Humans are not unable to bond without boning. To suggest as much is ridiculous. Moreover, hormones change. There's even evidence that a lot of marriages end because the woman stops taking birth control -- and suddenly finds that she's not attracted to her husband of however long anymore. Scary stuff.)
- No pregnancy.
- No STDs.
- No unwanted sex (a surprising number of women, and especially young women, report having sexual encounters because they thought the dude wanted to. To me, this is one of the saddest reason to have sex.)
- If you're celibate for religious reasons, you feel strength in your faith and convictions.
- If you want to be having sex but you refrain, you fortify your ability to self-regulate. Not just when it comes to sex, but also to dieting, exercising, being patient, etc.
- More sleep?
- More time to do other things
- Depending on your reasons, perhaps the belief that you are saving yourself for the right person (e.g., sex is a gift from God meant to be shared only between a husband and a wife).
- You save money (thousands of dollars, apparently) by not having to pay for contraception.
- No pressure to take (or ask your partner to take) pills that mess up her heart, brain, memory, weight, emotions, blood, etc.

Disadvantages:
This is also highly subjective -- there are a lot of reasons people choose to be celibate. If you're celibate because you don't want to have sex, then I don't really see any disadvantages. But:

- For someone who wants to be having sex but is a celibate, it's obviously a struggle.
- For someone who is celibate for reasons he/she cannot control (injury, illness), the inability to do something you want to do with someone you want to do it with can be devastating.
- For someone who is celibate and also does not have orgasms in some other way, either, he/she may be missing out on certain health benefits associated with orgasm. Better sleep, stress release, lower blood pressure, lower experience of pain and reduced risk of endometriosis, to name some.
- Blue balls.
- Reduced ability to relate to, like, 90% of your peers.
- A lot of people won't date you if you're celibate.
- A lot of people will judge you and think you're weird.

 

[corrector]

Advantages:
Highly subjective. I think generally, the advantages are:

- You know the person you are with is with you because they love you for who you are -- not because they want sex from you.
- You form relationships that are based entirely on how you feel about each other, and not hormones that are released during sex. (Some people say that these hormones are "important for bonding," but I know for a fact that you can bond perfectly well without them. Humans are not unable to bond without boning. To suggest as much is ridiculous. Moreover, hormones change. There's even evidence that a lot of marriages end because the woman stops taking birth control -- and suddenly finds that she's not attracted to her husband of however long anymore. Scary stuff.)
- No pregnancy.
- No STDs.
- No unwanted sex (a surprising number of women, and especially young women, report having sexual encounters because they thought the dude wanted to. To me, this is one of the saddest reason to have sex.)
- If you're celibate for religious reasons, you feel strength in your faith and convictions.
- If you want to be having sex but you refrain, you fortify your ability to self-regulate. Not just when it comes to sex, but also to dieting, exercising, being patient, etc.
- More sleep?
- More time to do other things
- Depending on your reasons, perhaps the belief that you are saving yourself for the right person (e.g., sex is a gift from God meant to be shared only between a husband and a wife).
- You save money (thousands of dollars, apparently) by not having to pay for contraception.
- No pressure to take (or ask your partner to take) pills that mess up her heart, brain, memory, weight, emotions, blood, etc.

Disadvantages:
This is also highly subjective -- there are a lot of reasons people choose to be celibate. If you're celibate because you don't want to have sex, then I don't really see any disadvantages. But:

- For someone who wants to be having sex but is a celibate, it's obviously a struggle.
- For someone who is celibate for reasons he/she cannot control (injury, illness), the inability to do something you want to do with someone you want to do it with can be devastating.
- For someone who is celibate and also does not have orgasms in some other way, either, he/she may be missing out on certain health benefits associated with orgasm. Better sleep, stress release, lower blood pressure, lower experience of pain and reduced risk of endometriosis, to name some.
- Blue balls.
- Reduced ability to relate to, like, 90% of your peers.
- A lot of people won't date you if you're celibate.
- A lot of people will judge you and think you're weird.

Also you will not be doing something that could jeapordize your soul and risk damnation (if already saved). Fornication is one of the most difficult sins to repent of or become a true follower of Christ. Once there is a momentum in this path its next to impossible to stop. Even in a marriage this becomes adultery or very strong temptation to commit it because you had other women and even sirloin steak every day gets boring and you will want to dip again and cheat. Best not to start in the first place.

 

[R.U.G.]

Advantages:
Highly subjective. I think generally, the advantages are:

- You know the person you are with is with you because they love you for who you are -- not because they want sex from you.
- You form relationships that are based entirely on how you feel about each other, and not hormones that are released during sex. (Some people say that these hormones are "important for bonding," but I know for a fact that you can bond perfectly well without them. Humans are not unable to bond without boning. To suggest as much is ridiculous. Moreover, hormones change. There's even evidence that a lot of marriages end because the woman stops taking birth control -- and suddenly finds that she's not attracted to her husband of however long anymore. Scary stuff.)
- No pregnancy.
- No STDs.
- No unwanted sex (a surprising number of women, and especially young women, report having sexual encounters because they thought the dude wanted to. To me, this is one of the saddest reason to have sex.)
- If you're celibate for religious reasons, you feel strength in your faith and convictions.
- If you want to be having sex but you refrain, you fortify your ability to self-regulate. Not just when it comes to sex, but also to dieting, exercising, being patient, etc.
- More sleep?
- More time to do other things
- Depending on your reasons, perhaps the belief that you are saving yourself for the right person (e.g., sex is a gift from God meant to be shared only between a husband and a wife).
- You save money (thousands of dollars, apparently) by not having to pay for contraception.
- No pressure to take (or ask your partner to take) pills that mess up her heart, brain, memory, weight, emotions, blood, etc.

Disadvantages:
This is also highly subjective -- there are a lot of reasons people choose to be celibate. If you're celibate because you don't want to have sex, then I don't really see any disadvantages. But:

- For someone who wants to be having sex but is a celibate, it's obviously a struggle.
- For someone who is celibate for reasons he/she cannot control (injury, illness), the inability to do something you want to do with someone you want to do it with can be devastating.
- For someone who is celibate and also does not have orgasms in some other way, either, he/she may be missing out on certain health benefits associated with orgasm. Better sleep, stress release, lower blood pressure, lower experience of pain and reduced risk of endometriosis, to name some.
- Blue balls.
- Reduced ability to relate to, like, 90% of your peers.
- A lot of people won't date you if you're celibate.
- A lot of people will judge you and think you're weird.

I see. What happens if you two are not sexually compatible? I guess then the guy is really fvcked.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I see. What happens if you two are not sexually compatible? I guess then the guy is really fvcked.

WTF is "sexually compatable"?

 

[R.U.G.]

WTF is "sexually compatable"?

You each actually like sex with each other.

 

[Lookatu]

I will say I think it's all about moderation and regulation. I know there's guys that just want that high notch count and that's it, as I used to be one of them. But based on my marriage of 15+ years and then dating around after, I come to the conclusion that it is definitely better and less harmful to have sex many times with the same women than to have one night stands with several. This can really ruin you if you ever want to be in a long term relationship or get married later on. Just My $.02...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No advantages.

 

[corrector]

This is organized religious mumbo jumbo. Abraham had multiple wives as many others did.
St Paul made the 1 wife rule.

When you get to the high court make sure your ducks are in order before you talk about someone else's soul being condemned.
St Paul also said he was judged by "no man"
This is the kind of crap that "the church" has made through centuries and probably the same reason the Pope dresses so funny and priests rape little boys.
He said judge not. Unless you be judged yourself + many other verses that doesnt trap men but sets them free.
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I was refering to people who professed they were already saved but are into this and was not intended to be addressed to unbelievers. If you are not making such a profession then I dont have any such issue with you. But you cant be a Christian and practise sin and defend it in a public forum.

 

[Lookatu]

And then there are always the girls that are "celibate" even though they don't count oral or anal as "having sex". LOL

Just sayin...

 

[corrector]

Christians are dead to sin. I get that OP is thinking "outloud" however to think celibacy gets you closer to God is s fallacy and a lie. No more then "not stealing does"
In the mean time do your best.

I did not say that abstaining is all you need to be saved. But fornication is a sin and people who are comfortable with this sin are not dead to that sin. So if the OP wants to add this to advantage then it is a complete picture.

 

[Alvafe]

Advantages:
Highly subjective. I think generally, the advantages are:

- You know the person you are with is with you because they love you for who you are -- not because they want sex from you.
- You form relationships that are based entirely on how you feel about each other, and not hormones that are released during sex. (Some people say that these hormones are "important for bonding," but I know for a fact that you can bond perfectly well without them. Humans are not unable to bond without boning. To suggest as much is ridiculous. Moreover, hormones change. There's even evidence that a lot of marriages end because the woman stops taking birth control -- and suddenly finds that she's not attracted to her husband of however long anymore. Scary stuff.)
- No pregnancy.
- No STDs.
- No unwanted sex (a surprising number of women, and especially young women, report having sexual encounters because they thought the dude wanted to. To me, this is one of the saddest reason to have sex.)
- If you're celibate for religious reasons, you feel strength in your faith and convictions.
- If you want to be having sex but you refrain, you fortify your ability to self-regulate. Not just when it comes to sex, but also to dieting, exercising, being patient, etc.
- More sleep?
- More time to do other things
- Depending on your reasons, perhaps the belief that you are saving yourself for the right person (e.g., sex is a gift from God meant to be shared only between a husband and a wife).
- You save money (thousands of dollars, apparently) by not having to pay for contraception.
- No pressure to take (or ask your partner to take) pills that mess up her heart, brain, memory, weight, emotions, blood, etc.

Disadvantages:
This is also highly subjective -- there are a lot of reasons people choose to be celibate. If you're celibate because you don't want to have sex, then I don't really see any disadvantages. But:

- For someone who wants to be having sex but is a celibate, it's obviously a struggle.
- For someone who is celibate for reasons he/she cannot control (injury, illness), the inability to do something you want to do with someone you want to do it with can be devastating.
- For someone who is celibate and also does not have orgasms in some other way, either, he/she may be missing out on certain health benefits associated with orgasm. Better sleep, stress release, lower blood pressure, lower experience of pain and reduced risk of endometriosis, to name some.
- Blue balls.
- Reduced ability to relate to, like, 90% of your peers.
- A lot of people won't date you if you're celibate.
- A lot of people will judge you and think you're weird.

yeah lots of things are wrong, you will still masturbate, its also force you to marry earlier, it was common people marrying as soon as possible so they could finally sex

another disavantages are also you have no will, you do what others want to do, you are a sheep following someone else lead, and funny is they tell you in your face but you guys still refuse to think

you don't see if sex with said person will be good enough.


serious everytime someone bring religion as a way of doing things I know this person should be disregarded, it show a huge ammount of ignorance, I consider 3 things for someone to be really free, free of religion free of state/goverments, and free of gurus, you need to think for yourself and apply to yourself and lead by example others around you

 

[corrector]

I think fornication is a bit deeper subject then to say it only applies to the physical world.

I don't understand the reply. Do you mean to say that my calling this a "sin" is imply that I meant to say that this only applies to the physical world? Otherwise, where did that come in?