"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AD's machine

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I've been a lurker for quite some time. Below are 10 posts(Anti-Dump's machine by pook) that I think oughto be resurrected. Note these are only for guys who are looking for LTR's. No speed seduction tips, or quick guide to laying women here, so if thats what you're looking for, stop reading now.

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part I: Interest Level)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39729

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part II: More Interest Level)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39769

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part III: You BUY a relationship, not BUILD one)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39785

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part IV: Embrace ACTION, Woman's Weak Spot)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39887

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part V: Women and Information)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39888

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VI: Three Words To Change Your Life!)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40188

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VII: Become a Mystery!)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40241

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VIII: Approaching Women)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40347

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part IX: ALWAYS Be Prepared!)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40698

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part X: After the Dates)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=58363

My way of saying thanks to pook and AD for the information. ALL the credit goes to them.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This should be stickied...
 
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Yo CMOS,


Thanks for the compilation. This is a great arsenal of info for us to have within reach whenever we need it.

Oh, and Welcome to the War, soldier...

And good luck IN THE FIGHT!!!!
 
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Maybe the machine is not useful for ONS and stuff, but I am sure the attitude behind it is very important, and that's not only for sarging.

AD rules.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Pook's AD machine posts are truly unique. In them, Pook seems to take the position of the student, summarizing what he has learned from Anti-Dump. He not only summarizes, but lays it out for us step by step. We not only see the 'machine' and how it works, but we also see how Pook came to his conclusions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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/bump

Even if it's in the bible, it deserves to be read many, many times. BUmp for those who havent bothered to check out the Bible yet. (you know who you are, I'm watching you!!)
 
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I am one of the few members still around from back when Anti-Dump was a current poster. I was a 16-year-old virgin when I started reading stuff by him, Pook, and Big Don. It changed my life. Read their stuff and soak it up like it's gospel.
 
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Hmm, read this ages ago.
Necro thread :).

His machine basically states that initial interest level should be your filter for deciding to pursue or not.
Fair enough, but interest level can increase and decrease FROM pursuing.

All comes back to persistence when there's a genuine chance and nexting appropriately.
People can become obsessed with interest level, which is only one facet to a successful relationship-- don't get obsessed with something so particular.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BUMPING this hardcore.


#1 problem if you aren't getting anywhere with a girl is SHE IS NOT INTERESTED. move on get another one. AD says it a lot better
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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