Lately I have been taking small incremental steps to make my life better and adopt a winning mindset.
I've started counting and celebrating every little win. Get a new client, WIN! Save a few bucks on a pair of jeans? WIN. Have a great talk with my general manager? WIN. Sure these aren't huge things, but for the longest I discounted them as not important. They are important. New clients= more money and a long term business relationship as well as referrals and contacts. Saving a few bucks on clothing means I can spend more on my business or buy an extra shirt. Having a great talk with the GM means that he thinks favorably of me and I can retain some job security until I'm ready to fly solo.
Every little win matters. Count them. Enjoy them.
Now I am developing the mentality of expecting to win. I have always had a negative tape playing in my head of why I can't do something or why it won't work. But beneath that buzzing noise was a part of me that still kept trying. I've been at war with those to parts of me and now I am trying to win the war. When the negative tape stops and the underlying ambition gets combined with a positive tape and huge dose of action, how can anything stop me?
When I'd catch myself dwelling on a negative thought or talking myself out of trying I say to myself FVCK THAT SHYT. Do it anyway and see what happens. I've been doing that since I came out of my depression. It really stemmed from the fact that my life was crap so what do I have to lose? I mean its been worse and I don't have much anyway, let's dare life to just screw me over again. But an amazing thing happened. People started responding well to me. Clients, acquaintances, women. And people started to believe in me and take me seriously. I started to win. Small wins. But wins.
Now I'm trying to change the tape in my head for "screw it let's see what happens" to "you can do this, you deserve this, and you will win at this".
I've started counting and celebrating every little win. Get a new client, WIN! Save a few bucks on a pair of jeans? WIN. Have a great talk with my general manager? WIN. Sure these aren't huge things, but for the longest I discounted them as not important. They are important. New clients= more money and a long term business relationship as well as referrals and contacts. Saving a few bucks on clothing means I can spend more on my business or buy an extra shirt. Having a great talk with the GM means that he thinks favorably of me and I can retain some job security until I'm ready to fly solo.
Every little win matters. Count them. Enjoy them.
Now I am developing the mentality of expecting to win. I have always had a negative tape playing in my head of why I can't do something or why it won't work. But beneath that buzzing noise was a part of me that still kept trying. I've been at war with those to parts of me and now I am trying to win the war. When the negative tape stops and the underlying ambition gets combined with a positive tape and huge dose of action, how can anything stop me?
When I'd catch myself dwelling on a negative thought or talking myself out of trying I say to myself FVCK THAT SHYT. Do it anyway and see what happens. I've been doing that since I came out of my depression. It really stemmed from the fact that my life was crap so what do I have to lose? I mean its been worse and I don't have much anyway, let's dare life to just screw me over again. But an amazing thing happened. People started responding well to me. Clients, acquaintances, women. And people started to believe in me and take me seriously. I started to win. Small wins. But wins.
Now I'm trying to change the tape in my head for "screw it let's see what happens" to "you can do this, you deserve this, and you will win at this".