"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ADHD traits evolved as an evolutionary survival advantage in foraging researchers speculate

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That’s a good point about evolution would have filtered it out at some point. My kid has adhd. A lot of the leaders in this world do also. If harnessed properly it can be considered a ‘superpower’
 
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This has been postulated for years on the whole Hunter/Gatherer dynamic and what ADHD traits evolved for. One of those initial classic ADHD books (title escapes me presently) discussed this in detail.

Scattered Minds by Dr. Gabor Mate does a really nice job of talking about ADHD traits, how they develop from infancy and some of the possible reasons they exist in the population. If they didn't have genetic benefit for survival and propagation of the species then they would have been bred out of the species by now.
 
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ADHD is categorized through dopamine seeking, so is survival, so why this would be surprising or insightful is beyond me
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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