"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Adding Value

Epicwinguy

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In what ways can you add value to a social interaction? I can only think of a few.

Funny jokes
Optimistic attitude
Credible advice
Compliments (When necessary)

What other ways can one add value?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AlphaNate

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Your way of thinking implies only WHAT you say is important.

B - Body Language
E - Eye Contact
T - Tone of Voice

B.E.T. matters way more than anything you say. I wouldn't recommend talking about Costco chicken wings, though.
 

ubercat

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Bringing people who r sitting there like pet rocks back into the conversation, basically the opposite of AMOGing.
 

Urbanyst

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Being valuable. Wisdom and leadership.

Unless I'm at work, I don't worry about adding value to situations. If people are associating with you, they see your value. If they don't see your value, don't associate with them.
 

ubercat

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So @Epicwinguy that's more than most young guys know. R u gonna ask more questions or go join that baseball team?

BTW all the replies above r true.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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