"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Adding the Funny to C&F

asilva732

New Member
Joined
Jan 21, 2010
Messages
8
Reaction score
0
First off I gotta thank this forum for the great material in the DJ Bible.
It have felt the improvement already.
I consider myself a shy guy and with ****y, tenacious attitude. yet I am told I am attractive. The thing is when I go practice my C&F on girls I notice I show most of the C and little to no F.

And from what I read here the ****y and handsome guy has the perception of a jerk, which is good short term and nothing more.

so thats it for now, any tips on adding the F to C&F?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

alwayslead8821

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 8, 2010
Messages
90
Reaction score
1
That was a problem for me also. Especially when I was nervous and not over my approach anxiety. I would just end up looking like a jackass but it was better then being just shy. Usually you stop being funny when you are over thinking everything. Just put a smile on and be observant of everything around you to help you get material. Really what happened with me is I would be putting so much of my thoughts to try and get this girl to like me that I couldn't be my natural self. The remedy for that was to just stop caring about what other think. Start off by joking with people that you a comfortable with and then slowly moving up the ladder.

I find watching stand up comedy and really paying attention to people that are funny and how they act help a lot. The smile is a big portion of it to. If you have a big smile on they almost will always be laughing to, and if they are not, walk away. good luck man
 

underoath777

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 10, 2010
Messages
71
Reaction score
0
Just smile bro. Use your facial expressions to know you're joking. Like if you're teasing her, laugh with her.

Watch Ryan Reynolds. I love his sarcastic sense of humor. Although, in the movies, he comes off as a jackass because he doesn't laugh or smile, so people think he's serious.

As long as you smile and laugh with the joke, she should pick up that it's a joke.

Another thing...you CAN go overboard with the joking. I had a girl tell me I had feel her like **** all the time, so I brought it down a little, lol.
 

asilva732

New Member
Joined
Jan 21, 2010
Messages
8
Reaction score
0
maybe i wasnt clear in my first post or w/e but what i am trying to say is that in most of the material i come up is typically a ****y remark and i hint it it as joke by smiling. so in other words i feel like im not really doing C&F and just adding the smile for some type of rapport.

as for the tip of watching some standup comedy ive been doing that every morning this week. someone here mentioned the website rooftopcomedy and this is great! props to whoever mentioned it. i find that it gives a good mindset for the rest of the day.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

asilva732

New Member
Joined
Jan 21, 2010
Messages
8
Reaction score
0
haha..
anyways basically i am a stubborn guy. how can you teach funny to a guy like me
 

zekko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2009
Messages
16,804
Reaction score
10,036
Just smile bro. Use your facial expressions to know you're joking. Like if you're teasing her, laugh with her.
I agree with this. Use your tone of voice and facial expressions to let her know you're joking.
 
Top