"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Adding the Funny to C&F

A

asilva732

New Member
Joined
Jan 21, 2010
Messages
8
Reaction score
0
First off I gotta thank this forum for the great material in the DJ Bible.
It have felt the improvement already.
I consider myself a shy guy and with ****y, tenacious attitude. yet I am told I am attractive. The thing is when I go practice my C&F on girls I notice I show most of the C and little to no F.

And from what I read here the ****y and handsome guy has the perception of a jerk, which is good short term and nothing more.

so thats it for now, any tips on adding the F to C&F?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

A

alwayslead8821

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 8, 2010
Messages
90
Reaction score
1
That was a problem for me also. Especially when I was nervous and not over my approach anxiety. I would just end up looking like a jackass but it was better then being just shy. Usually you stop being funny when you are over thinking everything. Just put a smile on and be observant of everything around you to help you get material. Really what happened with me is I would be putting so much of my thoughts to try and get this girl to like me that I couldn't be my natural self. The remedy for that was to just stop caring about what other think. Start off by joking with people that you a comfortable with and then slowly moving up the ladder.

I find watching stand up comedy and really paying attention to people that are funny and how they act help a lot. The smile is a big portion of it to. If you have a big smile on they almost will always be laughing to, and if they are not, walk away. good luck man
 
U

underoath777

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 10, 2010
Messages
71
Reaction score
0
Just smile bro. Use your facial expressions to know you're joking. Like if you're teasing her, laugh with her.

Watch Ryan Reynolds. I love his sarcastic sense of humor. Although, in the movies, he comes off as a jackass because he doesn't laugh or smile, so people think he's serious.

As long as you smile and laugh with the joke, she should pick up that it's a joke.

Another thing...you CAN go overboard with the joking. I had a girl tell me I had feel her like **** all the time, so I brought it down a little, lol.
 
A

asilva732

New Member
Joined
Jan 21, 2010
Messages
8
Reaction score
0
maybe i wasnt clear in my first post or w/e but what i am trying to say is that in most of the material i come up is typically a ****y remark and i hint it it as joke by smiling. so in other words i feel like im not really doing C&F and just adding the smile for some type of rapport.

as for the tip of watching some standup comedy ive been doing that every morning this week. someone here mentioned the website rooftopcomedy and this is great! props to whoever mentioned it. i find that it gives a good mindset for the rest of the day.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

A

asilva732

New Member
Joined
Jan 21, 2010
Messages
8
Reaction score
0
haha..
anyways basically i am a stubborn guy. how can you teach funny to a guy like me
 
zekko

zekko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2009
Messages
16,804
Reaction score
10,036
Just smile bro. Use your facial expressions to know you're joking. Like if you're teasing her, laugh with her.
Click to expand...
I agree with this. Use your tone of voice and facial expressions to let her know you're joking.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top