"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DarthJuan

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I've been bulking up over the past year doing the core exercises (bench, deads, squats) like everyone recommends.

I'm getting pretty close to my goals now, so I'd like to incorporate some other exercises.

What are some good exercises to start adding to the core ones?

Also, should I change up using barbells to dumb bells to mix things up a little?

-thx
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A whole year with those 3 primary exercises ONLY? How did that go? Please explain further on with this I'm quiet interested in hearing the results :)
 

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Seconding Zerix, *just* those 3 exercises? I'd also be interested to hear the results. Did you gain the size you were expecting, are some of your beach muscles lagging behind, etc? (biceps etc)

-shaun
 

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For most people, there's no need to actually work the beach muscles (up to a point). They will grow without direct stimulus.. again, up to a point. but worry about getting to that point first. :)

if you have a winning system, run with it..
 

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Warboss Alex said:
For most people, there's no need to actually work the beach muscles (up to a point). They will grow without direct stimulus.. again, up to a point. but worry about getting to that point first. :)

if you have a winning system, run with it..
Being into science and all, I was wondering what the mechanism is for that? That is, why will the biceps grow through building a heavy squat, despite not receiving any microtrauma?

I know they do, as I haven't done curls in 2 months and my arms have grown, I'm just interested.

cheers,
-shaun
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DarthJuan, sorry for straying off topic btw, lol :)

Exercises to add are:

rows or chins (or both)
posterior core exercise (pullthroughs, goodmornings)
shoulder press
curls
tricep exercise (pushdowns, skullcrushers, french press)

You could also start doing some incline bench presses, and put some dumbbell bench presses in. :)

-shaun
 

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shaunuk said:
Being into science and all, I was wondering what the mechanism is for that? That is, why will the biceps grow through building a heavy squat, despite not receiving any microtrauma?

I know they do, as I haven't done curls in 2 months and my arms have grown, I'm just interested.

cheers,
-shaun
I would have to say that it's because of more over-all body stress and a larger realease in anabolic hormones. That's just a guess though.
 

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donjuanjovi said:
I would have to say that it's because of more over-all body stress and a larger realease in anabolic hormones. That's just a guess though.
essentially that's it. the body will grow as a unit up to a point from just the fact it's growing.. hence why beginners do well in Rippetoe etc which don't include direct arm work. once you're past the beginner stage you need to do more direct arm work etc as these will require additional overload (in most people)
 
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