"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Adding a label to a relationship?

AB500

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For the past few days I've been seeing this girl, we've made out a few times and she is chasing after me (calling my phone and texting me all the time). Right now she is a little unsure of if she wants to "go out" with me and I've been subtly testing the waters, we were talking last night and the following conversation took place:

Her: So what exactly are we?
Me: Well, we are bipedal primates belonging to the mammalian species Homo sapiens, under the family Hominidae, aka Human Beings. Duh.
Her: I mean are we dating or are we just friends, I am kinda confused.
Me: Lol hell if I know, I've just been going with the flow, dating you wouldn't be too horrible though. What do you think?
Her: Duno what I think right now you said something about it yesterday I think.
Me: Heh, if I were you I wouldn't worry so much about placing titles on things , lets just keep being whatever we are. That being said I'm just about ready for bed, night.
Her: I agree with you totally, Goodnight ab500.
Me: I knew you would, so if anyone asks what we are just say we are girls_name and ab500 for now, thats a good title if I had to pick one :p
Her: I agree with you, there is no point in labels :)

So, what did I just do? I ethier made her feel at ease with not having to figure out if we are dating or not or gave her an easy way out of the question. I left the issue open for later revision and made it seem like this was more of a temperary thing. The chick totally digs me and if we are just friends we are definately friends with benifits at this point. Kino has been going great and she is pretty awesome. I've managed to keep her guessing a little bit by not answering her calls sometimes and sparatically answering text messages although I think I might be hanging around her too much, tell me what you think: (small field report)

Thursday: Saw her during school, saw after school till her ride got there, she initiated a kiss for the first time after this other guy that has been sloppily gaming her up was kinoing her kinda badly and I put this look of amusement on my face. Looked like she was trying to prove that she didn't really like him and wanted me.

Friday: Saw her during school. After a meeting I had with my mates she got her mom to take me over to my place, we watched movies and made out on my couch some, the plan was to go to this free dance, we went and it sucked so we went back to my hosue and finished watching supertroopers and get into making out again.

Saturday: I was busy most of the day, wasn't going to be able to see her but my schedule changed and I was able to make it to a bonfire her cousin was having (I amclose friends with her cousin). I saw her there and we kinoed some. She got a call about her grandpa being in the hospital or some **** so I kinda backed off of the sexual stuff for a while and just kissed her lightly, left around an hour and a half after I got there and went to bed at home.

She wants me to help her with her homework today, I'm guessing this is kind of an excuse to see me because she knows that I am enough of a geek to accually have fun helping someone with math homework (I love math and coincidentally enough that's what she needs help with). Should I be free enough to make it?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Skilla_Staz

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Unless you've offically asked her out, just tell her your in the 'test phase' and if she plays her cards right, only if, then u might take it a bit further.
 

Flabbergasped?

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Best thing to do is go with the flow. If she brings up the question, dodge it/bring it back on her, but the worst possible scenario would be for you to start calling her your girlfriend when she doesn't think so.

You're doing fine so far. You are seeing a lot of this girl, but keep yourself unpredictable and it should go fine.
 

AB500

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Hmm. Just an update:

So she came over and we made out again, this time things progressed a little bit further. Her interest level seems to still be getting highe but maybe not as high as it was at one point. I think I will bring it back up due to the fact school starts back up tomorrow and we won't be seeing each other much. I like Skilla_Staz's idea a lot and will remember it.
 

girlsarecrazy

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Tell her you want a casual relationship. Just focus on physical aspects instead of all the mushy mushy emotional.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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