Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Brian20o2

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I think I might be developing ADD (If thats possible). I dont like not being able to fucus on things for more than about 20 min. I get bored and tired of somthing very fast and try to find somthing else to do. I know that there are drugs to help concentrate and focus (Ridalin, Aderol) But I would like to know how to regain my focus without drugs. This has only happened in probably the past 2 months. I dont know why this is hapening but I think It might mave somthing to do with the weather, since it has gone from about 66 outside a month ago to 90 today.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Brian20o2

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This may just be restlessness so I am going to try meditating in a shaded cool place for a short time each day. I'll try to focus more whenever I try to do soething but it seems my short term memory has gone to crap.
 

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I have ADD. It's a little more complicated than that. You're just simply getting bored. As far as I can tell by your short description, it's nothing more.
 

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You probably listen to music, chat on AIM, go on sosuave, read a book, do HW, and surf other sites all at once. STOP DOING ONE THING PER WEEK. Cut it down until you're down to like 1 or 2 things. Then you will be able to focus better. ALSO, read books and A LOIT OF BOOKS. You will see an improvement.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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That techinically isn't ADD.

ADD as far as I'm aware is not being able to concentrate on anything, even if you wish to. School is a pain because you just can't focus on the teacher. You forget to do your homework because it just slips your mind. People can tell you to do something, and less than 10 seconds later, your attention could be on something and you could have totally forgotten what they asked you to do.

Happens to me all the time. ADD is a b*tch.
 

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KJ2 said:
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KJ2 said:
Just great. A flame baiter troll in my post. Mods please ban him ASAP.
 

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Hooray. This b*tch is all over the board. All of the usernames.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Brian20o2 said:
ROFL. Pretty much exactly like that.
Stop that man. We are not women. We are not supposed to multitask, but to do a single thing with full dedication. I promise yor problem will go away fast.
 

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The fats inside your brain are all Omega-3, and your body does not manufacture Omega-3 fats. They have been linked to brain development by countless studies.

So eat more Omega-3. It's in cold-water fish, flax, and walnuts.


http://www.smh.com.au/news/National...-research-shows/2006/06/21/1150701561387.html

Fish oil can treat ADHD, research shows
June 21, 2006
Omega-3 fish oil can be more effective than stimulant drugs commonly prescribed for children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), according to new research.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Look for fish oil that has been tested by a third-party to be free of mercury and lead, and pcp/dioxin if it is from farmed fish.
 

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ThreeStorms said:
Stop that man. We are not women. We are not supposed to multitask, but to do a single thing with full dedication. I promise yor problem will go away fast.

Hi,

I'm a man; and through the generations my ancestors evolved a brain capable of keeping track of time, performing several tasks at once and understanding abstract notions. My ancestors bestowed it upon me, and I plan to use all these functions regardless of those who say they're only for girls.

Thanks for your complete unblinking attention on this matter.

MrRuckus

p.s. your car is on fire but you couldn't be bothered to notice since all your attention was on this message.
 

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Brian20o2 said:
I think I might be developing ADD (If thats possible). I dont like not being able to fucus on things for more than about 20 min. I get bored and tired of somthing very fast and try to find somthing else to do. I know that there are drugs to help concentrate and focus (Ridalin, Aderol) But I would like to know how to regain my focus without drugs. This has only happened in probably the past 2 months. I dont know why this is hapening but I think It might mave somthing to do with the weather, since it has gone from about 66 outside a month ago to 90 today.

Heat make you loose concentration it's normal. ADD is alot more complicated. You do not "develop" ADD, it's when your brain is wired differently. When you are up on hyperactivity you can change subjects when you speak every ten seconds, never sit still (i.e. bounch of chairs when you sit down). Finger on everything, etc...
 

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See if you don't have to use glasses.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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