"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Action Thread 001 : Winter

Warrior74

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Now that winter time, holidays and Christmas shopping is coming up its a good time to take some action.

1. Step up your winter wardrobe. It's a great time to look sharp in seasonal gear.

2. Events. I don't know about your area but there are tons of season events coming up, from balls and formals to Christmas socials. Great time to get out and see whats going on in your community.

3. Personal events. Gather up friends and invite people over. It's still football season, throw your own game days. Get people together at pubs/sports bars for games or have a Halloween/Thanksgiving/Christmas party.

4. Hit the gym. It's a great time to get in the gym, getting in shape for the upcoming spring is a great move right now. Especially if your like me, a few lbs (well more than a few) overweight, winter clothes will cover your bulk and by the spring you'll have trimmed down with a new you.

5. Shopping. I see more people out during the shopping season than ever, more people in stores, malls, restaurants, bars, everywhere. So get out and shop and keep an eye out for prospects. Advice on shopping is a great opener.

If you can think of more things to do in the winter season post them. If you use any of these suggestions post for other guys to learn from.

Take some action. Good luck.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kailex

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People are a lot more friendlier in that time between Thanksgiving and Christmas. There's SO many activities to do out that it's almost impossible to miss situations in which you can be social. And this is not only for finding women, but for meeting people in general. There could not be an easier time to do a Bootcamp than this.

Halloween is a great release for your inhibitions as well.


And to further Warrior's post about football. The season is heating up, which means that it's totally acceptable to go to a bar by yourself on a Sunday afternoon, sit down, and talk shop with other people there. It'll do wonders for your social aspect. I've done this in the past and it's worked like a charm.

Who knows, you might even meet a hottie who is rooting for the other team (perfect way to initiate some neg-hits) and *GASP* you might even get a date that way.

I hate the cold weather but love this time of year.
I'm already doing everything on Warrior's list but just wanted to further it along.
 

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getting in the gym just now. with combining gym and jiujitsu, my new look for 2011 will be fabolous.
 

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That's the spirit, Warrior. That's what we need more of around here... positive reminders of how we can improve our lives.

Dance lessons in the dead of Winter are always an option.
 

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Instead of making a snowman, let's drink some Scotch and make an anatomically correct HB10? Gotta find a good place for the carrot though. P.S...nice post Warrior.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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