big_jeffry
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hey fellow dj's. could you please give me some tips on acting disinterested toward hb's or just average girls?
thx
thx
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Read the DJ Bible.
By the way, in my opinion, it's not about acting disinterested....it's about remaining an enigma; become a challenge.
By the way, in my opinion, it's not about acting disinterested....it's about remaining an enigma; become a challenge.
Osiris7250
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you dont want to act "disinterested," more like slight interest but still letting her know she dont mean a lot and can be replaced.
if you need help doin that focus on something unappealing about her and constantly keep it in your mind when your around her.... it will stop you from becoming obsesive and keep the interest level at a decent point.
if you need help doin that focus on something unappealing about her and constantly keep it in your mind when your around her.... it will stop you from becoming obsesive and keep the interest level at a decent point.
PEPE LE PIU
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Ok, i was writting something very long but i am not sure that it could apply to others and maybe i am bullsh|tting ( i am an ammature DJ you see). But what works for me is that
1) i show a little interest. After all no one likes a sleepy dog. Everyone want's that little puppy that waves his tail. The bad thing is when that puppy is all the time after us and want's to play all the time. Then it get's annoying
2) i don't use the phone very often. Once i get the number i wait (less than a week) to call, some times they call me first.
3) on the phone no long chat's. Maybe some funny comment but close the date and hang.
4) on the date... well, there is a whole wealth of tips and articles here.
5) after the date the same as NR 2)
The whole point is that you are interested but not sure (this will confuse her) and use the phone with wisdom. I hope that help's.
1) i show a little interest. After all no one likes a sleepy dog. Everyone want's that little puppy that waves his tail. The bad thing is when that puppy is all the time after us and want's to play all the time. Then it get's annoying
2) i don't use the phone very often. Once i get the number i wait (less than a week) to call, some times they call me first.
3) on the phone no long chat's. Maybe some funny comment but close the date and hang.
4) on the date... well, there is a whole wealth of tips and articles here.
5) after the date the same as NR 2)
The whole point is that you are interested but not sure (this will confuse her) and use the phone with wisdom. I hope that help's.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
Here's all you will ever need to know about acting "disinterested" :
2 steps forward, 1 step back.
2 steps forward, 1 step back.
Osiris7250
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^^^^^LMFAO..... i gotta try that sometime
AnkleBreaker
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Yea ignoring them once you know them awhile bugs the hell out of her i played sum ganja games with this girl one day i just didnt talk to her. Went on for 2 days then she finally gave in and came and grabbed me and asked why i wasnt talking to her lol.
I was like i dont know been busy blah blah but she got on my nerves so i just cut her off permently.
ITs like that whole im the King and ther my servents and peasents
they piss me off i banish them from my kingdom mwhahahha!!!
I was like i dont know been busy blah blah but she got on my nerves so i just cut her off permently.
ITs like that whole im the King and ther my servents and peasents
they piss me off i banish them from my kingdom mwhahahha!!!
shagnscoob
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how do you know if theyll actually do that though rather than just ignore you back and never talk to you?
im currently trying out some ganja on this girl, but im afraid she might just forget about me or something, ya know?>
penkitten
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bah! cause we dont like to be rejected or ignored.. we love attention and we yearn for it ...
if you give us attention and then suddenly take it away.. we will pine for you..
we will rack our brains until we are just sick about it wondering why the heck you suddenly stopped...
to keep us interested.. you dont cut all contact.
you do something to show us you are still kinda interested.
this will keep us interested in you and keep us on pins and needles trying to figure out what your deal is .
i am currently doing this now... sheesh im such a chick!
if you give us attention and then suddenly take it away.. we will pine for you..
we will rack our brains until we are just sick about it wondering why the heck you suddenly stopped...
to keep us interested.. you dont cut all contact.
you do something to show us you are still kinda interested.
this will keep us interested in you and keep us on pins and needles trying to figure out what your deal is .
i am currently doing this now... sheesh im such a chick!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
the key is to let her know that there is a chance she can have you, but that it's all on her because you could care less about her. You can like something without wanting it, and it's her job to make you want her.
shagnscoob
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so would something like eye contact + smile suffice? im kinda confused on how to let a girl know im still interested when im making her do all the approaching (she IMed me the other night after like, a 5 day hiatus of talking even though i see her everyday)
defiancy
Senior Don Juan
If she doesnt show interest then thats that...go read the bible and go search more on body language...I recommend searching for Paranoid's : Some more on body language and get the site for more body language....
For Christians why do u think the bible is so important...for DJs why do u think that
For Christians why do u think the bible is so important...for DJs why do u think that
Patrick124
Master Don Juan
Its not a thing of disinterest. Its a thing of not-needing.
2 nights ago on the phone, I asked this girl to homecoming[she goes to a diff school..long story]. Then she ahd to go caus her rents were yellin.
30 minutes later she called back. I staye don for 5 minutes and then said "Aight well i gotta go do my homework, I'll talk to u later"
"..whats wrong?" she sounded like she was gonna cry lol. Once i knew she was attracted to me, i played it like I no longer needed her.
that was a pointless story...sorry.
2 nights ago on the phone, I asked this girl to homecoming[she goes to a diff school..long story]. Then she ahd to go caus her rents were yellin.
30 minutes later she called back. I staye don for 5 minutes and then said "Aight well i gotta go do my homework, I'll talk to u later"
"..whats wrong?" she sounded like she was gonna cry lol. Once i knew she was attracted to me, i played it like I no longer needed her.
that was a pointless story...sorry.
shagnscoob
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no that kinda makes sense, i see how like, you made an excuse to stop talking to her. you ended it before she did. i understand that aspect of it now i guess
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.