"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Acquaintance's girlfriend banned me from their wedding

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Hello all,

So I have this acquaintance of mine that I've known for around 7 years. He's in in my college's group of friends; this is a group of friends that we see each other every 1-2-3 months since we left college.

The thing is that he just told me that her future wife doesn't like me. The funny thing is that I DONT KNOW HER AT ALL, and she doesn't know me either. I've seen this girl maybe 7 times in 4 years, and I just said hello to her and a few words, nothing else, so I have no clue why she hates me so much that she doesn't want me in their wedding. Wtf?

My acquaintace said to me that he wanted to be totally honest with me, and confessed that her girlfriend doesnt like me at all and he doesnt know why (bull****), so he would like me to be in his bachelor's party but he cant invite me to his wedding.

See this, he's not my super friend but I find this disrespectful, childlish, and doesn't make any sense to me.

I dont know if I should go to his bacherlor's party or if I shouldn't. On the right hand it will be a fun day, but on the other hand I dont feel like going, I don't understand my acquaintance's behaviour (it seems he has no balls, or doesn't care too much about me), I dont understand his girlfriend's behaviour (everybody says that she is the one who wears the pants in their relationship), and I find it pretty rude, considering all my other friends are invited to their wedding.

I have no clue why a girl I barely know hates me so much that she doesn't want me in her wedding, and why my acquaintance is such a wuss.

Thoughts?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sazc

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Here's my thought - ASK him why she hates you and take it from there
 

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I put up with this kinda crap all the time

I take it as a compliment

It's born out of jealousy. You are probably seen as the bad influence

Be proud of it

It's better than being Mr. Boring or Mr. Invisible
 

Who Dares Win

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So you are invited to the funny part but are forbidden to attend the boring one and thats a problem?
 

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Order strippers and a donkey party and take some well detailed videos and pics of the madness and give it to her via vhs tape for olds skools sake.

then write in bold sharpy on tape
"for not inviting me to ur weeding (; WH0RE!"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Robert28

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Hell I try to get out of going to stupid ass weddings all the time. I’d be honored to not be invited to one!
 

zekko

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Some girls are just jealous of their lover's friends and do their bets to try and separate them.
I'm not sure if this is the case with you, or if you are exhibiting some sort of behavior that is putting her off of you (like maybe trying to push the red pill on her fiance, or being a horndog, or whatever).
 

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Well, drop him.

If I was him I’d drip her.

I had an uncle and he did not envite me to his wedding. I ended up fcking his wife. Uncle died.
 

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Do you feel like going to the bachelor party? Then go on ahead. If you believe it's truly going to be the last time for a while you get to be around this guy then you may want to make the most of it.
 

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Ask your buddy..."So now she's telling you who your friends can be and who may attend your wedding. Do you think this is going to get any less restrictive in 5 or 10 years?

Now granted I understand if it is a small wedding and the guest list is capped. My opinion is than those should be family only affairs...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She probably hates you because she knows that you know the truth: that she's controlling him into marriage with her. If I were you I'd go to the bachelor party and red pill his ass just before he gets drunk. Spare him years of misery with a biznatch who is going to cheat on him from day one.
 

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Probably cause she would have sex with you, if the opportunity emerge.

Like post above, she's a controlling one, so she wants to control her BF and that includes his friends. She will remove every friends of the guy that doesn't fit in her frame or she can't control.

I've known guys who are completely overframed by their wives/girlfriend...

Heck, the girls even call to cancel plans that the guy agreed on with me.

So go to the bachelor and have fun.. You do this for the dude and speak your mind
 

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Hello all,

So I have this acquaintance of mine that I've known for around 7 years. He's in in my college's group of friends; this is a group of friends that we see each other every 1-2-3 months since we left college.

The thing is that he just told me that her future wife doesn't like me. The funny thing is that I DONT KNOW HER AT ALL, and she doesn't know me either. I've seen this girl maybe 7 times in 4 years, and I just said hello to her and a few words, nothing else, so I have no clue why she hates me so much that she doesn't want me in their wedding. Wtf?

My acquaintace said to me that he wanted to be totally honest with me, and confessed that her girlfriend doesnt like me at all and he doesnt know why (bull****), so he would like me to be in his bachelor's party but he cant invite me to his wedding.

See this, he's not my super friend but I find this disrespectful, childlish, and doesn't make any sense to me.

I dont know if I should go to his bacherlor's party or if I shouldn't. On the right hand it will be a fun day, but on the other hand I dont feel like going, I don't understand my acquaintance's behaviour (it seems he has no balls, or doesn't care too much about me), I dont understand his girlfriend's behaviour (everybody says that she is the one who wears the pants in their relationship), and I find it pretty rude, considering all my other friends are invited to their wedding.

I have no clue why a girl I barely know hates me so much that she doesn't want me in her wedding, and why my acquaintance is such a wuss.

Thoughts?
How is this not obvious?

Go to the bachelor party and skip the wedding. The former will probably be more fun even without his b!tch wife being there. Get a gift for him and only for him, and never be polite to his wife ever again.

Don't take it out on him or blame him, but do let him know that if he wants you to go to the wedding you'll still go (but you're not looking to cause a scene by showing up unwelcome)
 

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I can remember at one stage of life, my hit ratio was the highest at weddings; maybe it enhances women's deep desire to secure a man. I actually enjoyed them (although I almost always figured out a way to avoid the church part :cool:, something that is very important with the Catholics, but not a problem at all with the 10-minute Baptists.)
 

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Another explanation is that it could be a convenient excuse to cut down the guest list - and at today's Marriage Industrial Complex pricing, who could blame them?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I can remember at one stage of life, my hit ratio was the highest at weddings; maybe it enhances women's deep desire to secure a man. I actually enjoyed them (although I almost always figured out a way to avoid the church part :cool:, something that is very important with the Catholics, but not a problem at all with the 10-minute Baptists.)
Single people at weddings tend to really get the feels about being single and lonely.
 
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