Accurate reading on this Girl???

[ARguy]

Ok so there is this girl, we are both in college and I cannot get an accurate reading on whether she likes me as a friend or something more.

These last few weeks I have been going to her dorm late at night. Mostly because I text her and set it up myself. When together we hang out and are very affectionate, as in snuggle up to each other and watch a movie or basically just talk through the night, etc. Point is we get pretty close.


Now for the issue, It is one thing when we are in private, but in public it is not anything like that. When we see each other we will hug if that and hardly talk UNLESS I approach her first. Also in regards to texting... She hardly ever texts first. We hardly hang out aside from those few late nights.

Because of this I feel that she wants me when it is late and she is bored at night with nothing to do.

In the end, I find myself putting in more effort and I just get mixed signals.

As a bit more I always feel she tests me when we are together as in always asking me what would I do if I was married and etc. etc. Or would you be mad at a girlfriend if this.....

Thoughts??? Is it just not worth the time?

 

[Iceberg]

If you're over her place late at night, and you're cuddling with her, then it's up to YOU to go for the kiss.

Maybe she's wasting your time. Maybe not. Honestly, you haven't made any bold moves, so how could I know?

Seems like you think that just showing up is enough. Like, "I'm here. Where's the p*ssy?" Get a couple drinks in, do your cuddling thing, but next time, go for the kiss. You're the man. You make the moves. Stop expecting the girls to do it for you.

 

[sighsigh]

You like this girl, and the two of you have been spending time together and cuddling for weeks, but you haven't actually kissed, had sex, or arranged a date? It sounds like you are deep in AFC land.

 

[bigneil]

Goddamn it throw her down and tear her clothes off and find out, don't write to us about it.

 

[ARguy]

Haha, ok I understand. I guess I already knew I should do this but I just got out of a relationship a few months ago and to be quite honest this is intimidating me more than it usually would. Better to do this sooner than later I suppose/

 

[floydb25]

Do NOT let fear guide you. There's nothing to be intimidated or scared of. If you want to not make anything come of this - follow your fears. They will lead you right to where you don't want to be.

In other words, just go for it. You have nothing to lose, but possibly something to gain. If you get rejected / pushed away - you know where you stand, and don't have to invest anymore. Don't analyze or ask - figure it out for yourself - by going for it. Facts are always better than assumptions. Just gotta try, and see what happens.

 

[window]

this girl really likes you, you need to go for the kiss...