"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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According to some the dating market is completely trashed.

pelvischestly

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If the market is completely trashed how as men of knowledge do you fix it. Or do you want the market to stay "trashed" so you can finger point at everyone else but yourself as the "problem". It's one thing to sit around and talk about something is broken over and over yet be useless when it comes to fixing it, while doing nothing but complaining about it being unrepairable and a whole other thing to be the man who actually repairs things to use.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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it can't be fixed without a culture shift, but the market is only trashed if you're looking for something that isn't in the market.
 

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OP, the onus is on the individual to accept personal responsibility for one's actions. Sitting around and talking as you say helps us to develop a perspective on the market. Whether or not it is "trashed" is reserved for the judgment of the individual.

We aren't going to go out and change the brokenness over night.

We can't change others. We can only guide ourselves to the best of our ability to accept or ignore (or monitor our personal investment) in situations (or people) we choose to associate with.

We aren't perfect. We're human. We're going to make mistakes. Hopefully through those mistakes... we reach wisdom with maturity.

We influence the market in a positive direction through our interpersonal growth and living by example.
 

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It is if you think of it as a 'market'.

But people are people, whatever the economists may think.

And then you have a choice; will you calibrate your behavior to the norm, or will you pursue excellence?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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