"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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According to some the dating market is completely trashed.

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If the market is completely trashed how as men of knowledge do you fix it. Or do you want the market to stay "trashed" so you can finger point at everyone else but yourself as the "problem". It's one thing to sit around and talk about something is broken over and over yet be useless when it comes to fixing it, while doing nothing but complaining about it being unrepairable and a whole other thing to be the man who actually repairs things to use.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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it can't be fixed without a culture shift, but the market is only trashed if you're looking for something that isn't in the market.
 
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OP, the onus is on the individual to accept personal responsibility for one's actions. Sitting around and talking as you say helps us to develop a perspective on the market. Whether or not it is "trashed" is reserved for the judgment of the individual.

We aren't going to go out and change the brokenness over night.

We can't change others. We can only guide ourselves to the best of our ability to accept or ignore (or monitor our personal investment) in situations (or people) we choose to associate with.

We aren't perfect. We're human. We're going to make mistakes. Hopefully through those mistakes... we reach wisdom with maturity.

We influence the market in a positive direction through our interpersonal growth and living by example.
 
ChristopherColumbus

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It is if you think of it as a 'market'.

But people are people, whatever the economists may think.

And then you have a choice; will you calibrate your behavior to the norm, or will you pursue excellence?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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