"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Accidental" Touching

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I noticed this with just about every salesgirl, retail girl, grocery store girl I encounter who is in her twenties. Every time I ask a question, or ask for help, there is always some prolonged touching with our hands. Or, I can't seem to end the interaction when it should.

For example, I was at a store a while back (think I wrote up a FR about this), and the girl gives me change and stares and smiles and holds my hand as she hands back the change. The touch was "electric." It actually felt like a jolt of electricity went through my body. I don't consider myself desperate, as I date reasonably often (say once a week or so) but there was a real electricity in her touch.

I encountered another girl who did something similar today. I asked for some help picking oranges. The girl comes over and holds the orange with me and caresses the palm of my hand at the same time. She felt completely comfortable and natural about it it seemed, so I went along with it.

Then in the checkout line, I chatted up the checkout girl. I've seen her before and I know she likes me. I extend my card to pay after a brief chat, but she ignores it. We keep talking, I look at her and my card, do this over and over again and she finally takes the card.

Would you guys consider such "accidental" prolonged touching IOI's?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Id say so.

I'm really getting into these vague, three word, master DJ responses.:yes:
 

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The electricity was all on your end. She reached for the hand sanitizer afterwards.
 

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More than IOI's, more like FMI's..


I noticed that too. They just see a great guy from a mile and flock to investigate.


I had something very similar with a hottie at post office. I came there on my bike, sweaty, and breathing really deep to recuperate. I'd say I smelled too. This HB8 comes behind me in the line, and then inches closer and closer. As I was ignoring her, she got even closer. Her tittie was inches from my arms and I could feel her breath. It was a cry for talk to me please. And I haven't made eye contact with her, nor acknowledged her presence, nor said anything to her nor anyone else. Just by my looks and body language she decided she had to get my attention.

If she could drop her letter and bend over to pick it up right in front of me, she'd do it.

No touching there. But touching at grocery stores, like you described, happens a lot.
 

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She's practicing kino. They read stuff like this too.

It's probably meant as a compliment. I'd take it as such.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What is FMI?

Stuntmann said:
More than IOI's, more like FMI's..


I noticed that too. They just see a great guy from a mile and flock to investigate.


I had something very similar with a hottie at post office. I came there on my bike, sweaty, and breathing really deep to recuperate. I'd say I smelled too. This HB8 comes behind me in the line, and then inches closer and closer. As I was ignoring her, she got even closer. Her tittie was inches from my arms and I could feel her breath. It was a cry for talk to me please. And I haven't made eye contact with her, nor acknowledged her presence, nor said anything to her nor anyone else. Just by my looks and body language she decided she had to get my attention.

If she could drop her letter and bend over to pick it up right in front of me, she'd do it.

No touching there. But touching at grocery stores, like you described, happens a lot.
 

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To paraphrase the Indian guy from 40 Year Old Virgin: "I better get on that, man!"
 
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