"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Acceptable to ask a girl with a bf to hand out?

CarpeDiem

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Acceptable to ask a girl with a bf to hang out?

She's now my ex. Her boyfriend is basically my best friend. Is it ok to ask her to hang out?

Edit: Crap, just saw the typo in the title. Should say hang instead of hand.

*Note by TheVirtualMind* Got ya covered.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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john paul

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whats the situations here?
She break up with you, you break up with her?
Was that "lets still be friends" stuff said?
Are you trying to gain her back?

We need to know more details to make an intelligant answer
 

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Alright, just to let you know though, it was about a year and a half ago we broke up.

She broke up with me, but we hang out once about a week later and she couldn't stop crying. Just recently she admitted to me it was because she kinda hoped I would say something to try and keep her >.>

I basically just cut off all contact with her after it happened. We just started talking about about a month and a half ago.

I have to admit, I do still like her, but am I trying to get her back? If she fell in my lap I'm sure i'd take her, but I couldn't try and steal her from my friend so take that however you want.
 

john paul

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Well i would put it this way.

If shes worth the friendship you have with the guy then go for her.

but if your not 100 percent sure you want her back then dont hang out with her.



And since you said you dont want to steal her from your friend then i would say dont hang out with her. Nothing good would come from it
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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amoka

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What does your friend thinks about this? Are you trying to secretly go out with her so she can take you back? Will you be in a good term with you friend if he finds out you went out with her without his knowledge? Also, is she worth being with than your friend. These are the questions you ask yourself when doing something like this? If your friend is more worthy than she is then don't. If you want to discretely hang out with her, be prepare to loose a friend should he find out.
-amoka
 

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If you ask me, here is my honest opinion.
If you close with you mate, tell him that you are not going to try anything on her so no need to worry and then just treat her like your friend, because its no use losing two friends for sex. So just chill get close and remain in contact, maybe try and hang out in a group and get her to bring some friends you may be interested in, this pleases everyone!
 

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No. No. and well.... NO!

You're going to do it anyway, but don't say we didn't warn you.
 
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