Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Accept that I have limited appeal?

rhcp83

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
I don't care what you look like. If your game is tight you can get dimes. This is the mentality you have to have. I know you be seeing these ugly dudes at the mall with a fine girl. That dude had game...
First of all this is coming from a guy who calls himself a "pretty boy." Second, likely he met her through a social circle/at work/she chose him because he knew someone she knew etc. . (The way most people meet each other.)

That's how you see ugly/average/not hot guys with dimes. That or he has a sh1tload of money.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I am similar in terms of looks I think. I do not suffer from albinism, but I am very pale, balding (gone for the Neil Strauss look and shaved my head), thin as a rake, have terrible trouble growing stubble (I don't any more - I am clean shaven always), wear glasses (designer), wear cologne and have terrible terrible teeth. However, I dress well, smile to everyone, am approachable and personable with a degree of independence, briskness and a stand-up-for-myself kind of attitude. I am short but tall. I wear heels, but i am 5"8. I am also pretty clever and have 2 degrees. I have had a mentality shift recently though, in that I've been on a few dates recently and now know what I am looking for, which is essentially what you are looking for. But my dream girl might be a friend of a friend, a colleague - who knows! You never know, so be prepared. Met a girl a few months ago who knocked my socks off - am seeing her next weekend, so all the stops will be out. I am making sure I'm going to this event with a few female pivots and good guy mates. I have honestly stopped caring about my looks because, hey, insecurity sucks and is very unsexy. I don't *think alpha* or anything, I just smile and have a good time making jokes and think of attractiveness in females as something fun and not something intimidating. I know I'll find someone amazing, but am not settling for just anyone. Even if it takes a bit longer. I am a fit, healthy guy but I have my big problems, but right now, I don't really care. I see dating as fun and something to be enjoyed. I see it as a game. You should do the same, but you must get to this space yourself.
 
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