"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Accept that I have limited appeal?

rhcp83

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
I don't care what you look like. If your game is tight you can get dimes. This is the mentality you have to have. I know you be seeing these ugly dudes at the mall with a fine girl. That dude had game...
First of all this is coming from a guy who calls himself a "pretty boy." Second, likely he met her through a social circle/at work/she chose him because he knew someone she knew etc. . (The way most people meet each other.)

That's how you see ugly/average/not hot guys with dimes. That or he has a sh1tload of money.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I am similar in terms of looks I think. I do not suffer from albinism, but I am very pale, balding (gone for the Neil Strauss look and shaved my head), thin as a rake, have terrible trouble growing stubble (I don't any more - I am clean shaven always), wear glasses (designer), wear cologne and have terrible terrible teeth. However, I dress well, smile to everyone, am approachable and personable with a degree of independence, briskness and a stand-up-for-myself kind of attitude. I am short but tall. I wear heels, but i am 5"8. I am also pretty clever and have 2 degrees. I have had a mentality shift recently though, in that I've been on a few dates recently and now know what I am looking for, which is essentially what you are looking for. But my dream girl might be a friend of a friend, a colleague - who knows! You never know, so be prepared. Met a girl a few months ago who knocked my socks off - am seeing her next weekend, so all the stops will be out. I am making sure I'm going to this event with a few female pivots and good guy mates. I have honestly stopped caring about my looks because, hey, insecurity sucks and is very unsexy. I don't *think alpha* or anything, I just smile and have a good time making jokes and think of attractiveness in females as something fun and not something intimidating. I know I'll find someone amazing, but am not settling for just anyone. Even if it takes a bit longer. I am a fit, healthy guy but I have my big problems, but right now, I don't really care. I see dating as fun and something to be enjoyed. I see it as a game. You should do the same, but you must get to this space yourself.
 
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