I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm not saying don't have a good time ocassionally, but you're gonna notice something when you get done with school. You're going to see most of the people who partied constantly get their a** kicked by reality. Most of them have no plans for their life outside of party and get laid.Contender said:My dilemma: doing well at school, and having the time to meet girls; and hang out with people socially.
That's a very good point, actually; what college did you attend?RedPill said:I'm not saying don't have a good time ocassionally, but you're gonna notice something when you get done with school. You're going to see most of the people who partied constantly get their a** kicked by reality. Most of them have no plans for their life outside of party and get laid.
Actually, back in the school days if I hadn't been such an AFC dumba** I could have gotten laid frequently with minimal partying. Just remember what your priorities are - 1) building a great life for yourself 2) chicks. Most people go by herd mentality though and have those priorities backwards.
A side note... I can't tell you how many girls in college I inadvertantly got hot for me by blowing off because I acted like I had a thousand better things to do than deal with their petty dramas and games. In retrospect I could have easily scored with them while continuing to be the bookworm.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Building a great life for yourself and then go for chicks is great and will make it easier for you to succeed with girls. But you cant just spend 4 years focusing on yourself. That's why you need to balance it.RedPill said:I'm not saying don't have a good time ocassionally, but you're gonna notice something when you get done with school. You're going to see most of the people who partied constantly get their a** kicked by reality. Most of them have no plans for their life outside of party and get laid.
Actually, back in the school days if I hadn't been such an AFC dumba** I could have gotten laid frequently with minimal partying. Just remember what your priorities are - 1) building a great life for yourself 2) chicks. Most people go by herd mentality though and have those priorities backwards.
A side note... I can't tell you how many girls in college I inadvertantly got hot for me by blowing off because I acted like I had a thousand better things to do than deal with their petty dramas and games. In retrospect I could have easily scored with them while continuing to be the bookworm.
No kidding!Taviii said:But you cant just spend 4 years focusing on yourself. That's why you need to balance it.